The Hardest Things To Do Are The Right Things

October 24, 2016

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  Hello, DJ Chloe!

  Let me start my story years ago when I was still in high school. I had a close guy friend who was one year ahead of me and eventually we had a ‘crush’ on each other. Although we never ended up together, we always had a ‘special connection’. That’s why a lot of our friends always believed that we had something before. At present, we are now both professionals. But a few months ago we found out together that we had the same sexual desire. We would go out late night after his shift, without the knowledge of his fiancé. At first, we would just go out to eat and chat but one day we were not able to contain our desires and something happened to us. Then after that it became on a regular basis.

  I realized now that he is really special to me but I can’t do anything about it since they are getting married before the year ends. I’m currently in a complicated relationship with a married man and I only have one guy friend who knows about it. He wants me to break up with him because he always say that there are still other men and he wants me to be happy.

  What will I do, DJ Chloe? I feel sorry for her fiancé but I can’t resist him every time he invites me and something happens. Maybe it’s also because he told me before that one of the reasons why he is marrying her is because of practicality. I’m the only girl he is close with since high school and I don’t want our friendship to be ruined just in case someone finds out about our secret affair. I also feel that maybe I have feelings for him just like the old days or we just have a deeper understanding of ourselves since we are too comfortable with each other. I hope you can give me an advice. Thanks! I’m hoping this will remain as a private matter. Thanks again.

  Little Miss Ambivalent

  Hi, Little Miss Ambivalent!

  You know what,  my dear. The hardest thing is usually the right thing to do.

  Your life is very colorful. Some people will envy you for the courage you have, for the kind of passion you have, when you’re young it’s somehow okay to live a dangerous life. But what do you really get out of it? Stress, right?

  Stress and pain, and guilt, and a lot of guilt.

  I don’t know you. I don’t know what happened to you. But whatever happened to you in the past that have made you feel you don’t deserve a good man, a love you can be proud of, I’m here to tell you that you deserve a clean slate so you can find  the right person for you. And that clean slate will pave the way for you to be the right person as well.

  And again, the hardest thing is the right thing to do.

  The day will come when you will have to decide, I’m saying, don’t prolong it. If you can decide now, do it.

  We all have one life to live and yes, mistakes are inevitable. But mistakes should teach you lessons. So you don’t repeat it.

  You are involved with the wrong people, a married man. And a man who is committed and is about to get married. And you alone can correct yourself and give yourself the direction that’s pleasing in the eyes of God.

  Having two men doesn’t make you beautiful. It also doesn’t mean their women are ugly, in case you’re thinking they’re with you because the women in their lives are ugly. But it does make someone ugly and that’s you.

  

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