You Have To Know The Truth

October 26, 2016

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  Hi DJ Chloe,

  It’s my first time dropping you a message here though I’ve been listening to you for years. Please hide my identity.

  I’m 24 years old and currently based in UAE. I met my current boyfriend last year here. We started as close friends, until he admitted that he has fallen for me few months ago. When I met him last year, he said that he has a girlfriend back in the Philippines for two years but things were not going well between them. We did not talk anything about her after that since we were just friends lang naman and just casually hang out.

  When he admitted his feelings toward me few months ago, my initial reaction was about his girlfriend. He said that wala na sila ng girlfriend niya due to distance and lack of time; LDR did not work on them. He added that he had actually liked me the first time he met me that’s why he made all the efforts para maging close sa akin. I didn’t believe him on that aspect at first. But when it comes to effort, walang problema since he’s really doing things even out of his way just to spend time with me. To cut things short, naging kami after a month. Before ko siya sinagot, maraming beses ko siyang tinanong about the girlfriend (ex) and he was consistent on saying na wala na talaga. Now, we are happy together. We travel often and explore new things together. There are even plans na on settling.

  But… why is it that every time he starts checking his phone, I become irritated and insecure? I feel as if he’s talking to someone I am not supposed to know. ‘Di naman siguro ako praning but his actions are suspicious whenever his eyes are on his phone. He covers his phone and starts leaning the opposite way, away from me, whenever he chats someone. I can’t help but feel tuloy that he still has communication with his ex. In the first place, my heart is still bothered with it; is she really already an “ex”?

  What should I do, DJ Chloe? I want to ask him about it, but I don’t know why I don’t have the courage to do so. Thanks in advance.

  -Minerva

  Dear Minerva,

  You have all the right to ask and know the truth. So just ask him. And if his answer doesn’t satisfy you, then do your own research. What he said about the girlfriend back home maybe different from the truth which he is trying to hide from you. Maybe at the time he was trying to win you over wala na sila or malabo sila. You don’t really know the truth and you deserve to know it. Yes, his actions are all suspicious and if you will just let him be baka malaman mo na lang nakakasakit ka na pala or kung hindi, ikaw ang eventually masasaktan.

  

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