Love Can’t Be Online Only

October 27, 2016

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  I always listen to your program, this is my first time to send you a letter. I hope you could give me some advice.

  Hi, DJ Chloe! I’m Nykol, 31 years old and a single mom. I never had a serious relationship after the father of my child. I’ve been single for seven years and still waiting for the right guy. Suddenly, I met this American guy on some dating site. We talked about a lot of things. And then we got into a relationship. We also talked about getting me there to be with him but something came up and our communication was lost. I don’t know what happened to him. He was the one who got away. So I just continued my life without him! Because I thought that he was just like somebody the same as the father of my child. Then one day I met another guy on dating site again, the same thing happened. We talked about a lot of thing. It came to the point that we have a relationship. The same with the first guy. It’s a long distance relationship which lasted for one and a half year. I thought he was the one. But in the middle of our relationship the first guy, the one that got away came back and he started to talk to me again like nothing happened. He told me the reason why we lost our communication. It’s because of an accident he didn’t even recognized me from his past. He just found my number in his old sim card and he called me. Days passed by and we became friends again and he knows that I’m in a relationship with the second American guy. I’ve been open to my boyfriend that my ex-boyfriend was communicating with me again. He told me to don’t talk to him and I obey him at first. I talked to my ex-boyfriend and told him to not to talk with me again because I’m in a relationship.

  Days passed by, I didn’t expect this coming but my boyfriend is getting cold with me and making such excuses to the point he doesn’t want to talked to me anymore. Then my boyfriend called me asking how I was. He cares for me as a friend and he didn’t expect anything in return, we became friends again. Then my boyfriend asked me to end our half year relationship because the long distance relationship do not work. Then I found out the reason why he want it to end. He’s flirting with another girl. My ex comforted me because I was in pain. He also told me that he could help me move on but I refused to have a relationship with him again cause of our past and my ex-boyfriend. He just accepted that we’re just friends, supporting each other, giving advices. As time passed by, our friendship bloomed into a relationship for the second time around. He made me feel that he will not leave me again. He also said that our fate is on our way and we are destined to each other based on our experience. Should I believe in him again? Thank you hope you can read my letter and give me some advice.

  Nykol

  Dear Nykol,

  So ang problema natin ngayon is the the first American boyfriend who suddenly got lost because of an accident and came back again? Tapos na tayo dun sa second who came in the picture when the first was missing in action? Am I correct?

  Nykol, the only time you should believe these people of they are sincere or not, or they are really who and what they said they are, is when they come over and meet you personally or they themselves try to find out how to get you there. In short, lakarin papeles mo para makarating ka na doon. Napakadali magkunwari online at sabihin na “oo, mahal kita I’ll move mountains for you.” ONLINE! The real deal is different from the online deal. ‘Wag nga kayong masyadong magpapapaniwala sa mga nakikilala niyo sa internet. Well, if it is for you by all means no matter what you do, you will end up with either of the two. But if not, then ganyan lang ‘yan palagi. Mawawala, bumabalik, heto na naman. Tell them or this first guy if he is serious with you. Puntahan ka niya dito!

  

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