Don’t Be Distant To Your Foes

February 8, 2017

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  May I ask your advice on how to deal with a co-worker, basically my staff, na napakahirap katrabaho?

  Parang may attitude problem yata ‘yun. Ang dami ko na nakakausap na same ‘yung issue sa kanya. Simpleng bagay pinapakumplekado.

  ‘Yng tipong kung kausapin ako eh ako ‘yung staff at siya ‘yung all-knowing na boss.

  Hindi naman ako makasabi sa head namin kasi alam ko at ng lahat ng staff sa unit namin na ‘di naman ako papakinggan at pet ni head ‘yung isa. May mga nakapagraise na rin kasi ng same issue kay head pero wala naman nangyari. Nabaligtad pa ‘yung issue. In the end nagresign na lang ‘yung staff sa sobrang stress.

  Marami na rin instances naconfirm ko na iba ‘yung sinasabi niya sa ibang tao or kay head sa totoong nagyayari. Nakakaiyak na lang minsan.

  Madam

   

  Hi, Madam!

  I always say this, “the workplace is a melting pot of all personalities. Some are toxic, some are bipolar, and some are floating. Floating like me, wala daw akong pakialam sabi nila. I do not know the latest chismis and I don’t have a particular set of friends I am identified with. Lahat sila friends ko.

  It’s hard to survive in a corporate world, you know. Especially when there’s a lot of politics involved.

  This person you’re talking about seems to be good at politics. He or she knows who to take seriously and that’s your HEAD, ‘di ba? You can talk to the head about this without making it sound like nagsusumbong ka or naninira ka. May posisyon ka din, ‘di ba? Sabi mo staff mo siya, so use it.

  For a time, try to put yourself in his or her shoes and try to think how this person thinks. Baka mas maintindhan mo bakit siya ganyan. Try not to take things personally too. The moment na apektado ka na you lose all the chances to think logically.

  I only have one rule for myself when it comes to the workplace, “keep your friends close, your enemies closer.” Figure that out.

  

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