It’s Not Big Deal If He’ll Lose You

February 23, 2017

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  Hi DJ Chloe,

  Please, please don’t publish my Facebook name!

  Secret account but my friends still know the person behind this name. Just call me Mandy. Would you believe after three years susulat ako ulit about the same problem, same person? Road to moving on pa rin. And this one’s a long journey for me. Well, the guy I told you about a few years back has a new girl, yes, ibang girl from the last story, hehe. This time though serious na siya and has plans of marrying her. I know because sinabi niya mismo sa akin na he wants to propose na. We still keep in touch. Siya mostly because he still reaches out. Nagkikita kami for lunch every now and then. Catch up lang naman, no malice. Until one day, nagbiro sya (pero seryoso) with an indecent proposal. Aalis kasi ako pa-Dubai sana this year so bago daw ako alis, gawin namin.

  Na-shock naman ako kasi akala ko ba okay na sya with the girl. Paanong sumagi sa isip nya na alukin pa ako noon. Walang nangyari sa amin ni ex, by the way. Ang sakit ‘pag nakikita ko naman posts nila na masaya na siya. Bakit ganun? Kaibigan daw kami pero why tempt me sa ganung bagay? Minsan napapag-usapan pa ang past. Sorry, I know the answers pero, please, paki untog ulo ko ano bang maipapayo mo sa katulad ko? Reto mo na lang ako baka may kakilala kang okay. Haha! Biro lang po. Hurting ako. Ang tagal magheal. Ganito pala ang masaktan, mag-antay sa wala. P’wede bang maging friends pa ang mag-ex? Minsan naiisip ko na siyang dedmahin totally pero lalabas na bitter naman ako. ‘Di namin tinuloy ang relationship dati dahil sa daming complications. Andun ang love pero sometimes it’s not enough talaga. Parang ‘di lang ma-let go totally ang isa’t-isa. Or ako na lang naghang on?

  Thanks and more power!

  Mandy

  Dear Mandy,

  You were not able to move on because you didn’t want to in the first place.

  You were always there whenever he’d call for lunch, snacks, or maybe dinner. You were always available and he knows he’s got you on his tail.

  Haaaaaay, nako. Well, at least, I would commend you for not giving in.  I also will not blame you if you decided to give in. It’s your choice eh. But all the more you’ll bleed. You made him happy but doing it with him will cut you deep, you might not even be able to get healed.

  Lalo na dahil after doing it with you eh pakakasal pa rin siya sa iba. So ano ka sana? Pantanggal umay? Future kabit? Dahil alam niya na lagi kang andyan. ‘Pag may kulang sa bahay niya, lalabas siya para hanapin sa iba? Sa’yo?

  Don’t ever think that you win because he asked you to do it with him even with the presence of the new girl in his life. You don’t know what his motives are, and I am sure it’s not love. It is total disrespect. Do you want to be a part of it? In this life I have learned ‘wag kang man lamang ng kapwa mo, lalo na kapwa mo babae. Everything we do comes back to us, whether good or bad. So ano mang ayaw mo, ‘wag mong gawin sa iba.

  Respect yourself enough to stay away from him and respect his relationship enough with the new girl by keeping yourself out of the freaking picture.

  I understand you love him and you’re not able to move on. But moving on is a choice, you choose , you decide, “This is it. I am finally making a step forward. Moving on from everything that weighs me down!”

  Even if that means changing everything from your cell number to your underwear so you can forget! Do it!! Not for him, not for anyone, but for your SELF!

  

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