That One Person You Just Can’t Let Go

March 13, 2017

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  Hello, DJ Chloe!

  I just wanna get some advice from you , I am currently in a complicated situation with my girlfriend. Then I get to know this girl. We started chatting each other last 2015, I just added her thru Facebook because of our mutual friend. I always noticed her Facebook posts about her struggles about her husband and heartaches. I become what you call “pampalipas oras” taga comfort sa kanya dahil nasasaktan siya and she always calls me until she calls while I’m with my girlfriend. I was chatting her while I have a girlfriend but sooner my girlfriend found out that there was someone chatting me. But I didn’t let my girlfriend know that I did it so I just stopped chatting this girl because I have a girlfriend.

  A year later passed, we met again. I’m single this time. And we decided to meet again for the second time. October last year, it was my birthday when we meet at her co-worker’s place. We drink, she drinks more than I do because I have my motorcycle with me and I will drive to go home. Then it all starts there. We always see each other, drink everywhere, but I didn’t told her that I was nanliligaw pero siguro nararamdaman niya ‘yun. Then later, I thought that she finally moved on about his husband. But she often checks his husband profile. Even though she’s been blocked by his husband, she always chats to other male friends thru her Facebook. But I don’t want to totally na masakal siya sa’kin dahil sobrang possesive ko. Pero nag-aadjust din ako. I know naman po na ang Facebook ang takbuhan niya ‘pag masama loob niya. Nagpo-post siya tapos s’yempre kagaya ko noon mapapansin ng male friends niya at i-cha-chat siya. One time, she went to his husband and I know that it was their anniversary. She decided to break up with me. And I forgive her because I know naman na anniversary nila nag-eeffort siya, pinuntahan niya dun sa Laguna ang asawa niya. Then, ayun, she just posted that all of her efforts were just wasted. So here I go ,I comforted her again even though she decides to break up with me. I try to let her go but it just kills my mind when I know that she was hurt. So she came back to Manila. Sinundo ko siya. And nag-inom kami kasi nasasaktan siya. Then we resumed our relationship. I always take her to beautiful places here in Luzon just to give her peace of mind. To help her to forget his husband. But lately she’s been communicating again with him. I know I was wrong na magcheck ng phone niya. Pero nakikita ko sa call logs na tinatawagan niya pa rin husband niya. I know nagbubura siya ng texts at mga messages. Pero ayoko nang palalain pa. Alam ko naman sa kutob ko na ganun nga. Pero iniintidi ko na lang siya. Kasi mahal ko siya. I know I was so wrong na pumatol ako sa may asawa. Pero ang mas iniisip ko is bakit ganun pinaramdam niya sakin na mahal niya ako pero mahal niya pa rin ang asawa niya? Sana po mabasa niyo po itong message ko. Naguguluhan na po kasi ako. Nagma-matter ba na ‘pag iniwan ko siya hahanapin niya ko? Salamat po.

  Dear Alex,

  It is obvious that she is still in love with her husband. It is obvious that she doesn’t want to move on from him. It is also obvious that she is still doing everything she can to be noticed, to be taken back again by her husband. Your presence is not important to her, your presence is nothing to her. Shock absorber ka lang niya. Kung pinaparamdam niya sa’yo na mahal ka niya maybe she is just being grateful that you are there. Pagnawala ka hahanapin ka niya? Why not try to find out?

  

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