Relationships Are Not And Should Not Be Forced

March 22, 2017

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  Hi, DJ Chloe!

  I’m an avid reader of your Chloe’s Inbox. Never thought that one day I’m going to send you my story. Just call me Mel. I’m turning 28 years old this year, single, and currently working in a bank for four years na. DJ Chloe, I don’t know pero I’m feeling a little pressured sa mga nangyayari sa paligid ko. I mean, almost all of my friends are having their own families na. Sometimes, when I checked on my Facebook, kaliwa’t kanan ang nag-ppropose, magpapakasal, magpapabinyag, manganganak, etc. I felt I was being left out. I’ve had a relationship ‘di nagtagal, nakipaghiwalay ako dahil nalaman ko na pinagsabay niya kami. Then later on, I find myself in a situation na nagmamahal na hindi pa nakaka-get over sa ex niya. Kinulit niya ako, everyday chat and all.We go on dates din, and he already met my parents.In short, na-fall ako sa kanya, only to know, na mahal na mahal niya pa din ang ex niya at ‘yung ex niya pa din ang hinahanap niya. Fling lang ang gusto at hindi serious relationship. I felt so stupid and nagkaroon ng insecurities sa sarili ko. I already deleted him sa mga social media accounts ko kasi I know na baka ‘di ko matiis at ime-message ko pa siya. I’m sad, this is not the way kung paano kami mag-end. But he already made a choice, and so was I.

  Thank you,

  Mel

  Hi, Mel!

  Ano ang problema natin? Si ex na may hang-up pa sa ex or ang nahuhuli ka na sa byahe?

  ‘Yan ang ‘wag na ‘wag mong gawin. Ang pressure sa sarili mo. Ilang beses ko na ‘to nakwento dito. May officemate ako noo, when I came to our company, single siya. Fresh, independent, napressure. Bigla na lang nalaman naming magpapaksal na siya dun sa empleyado ng supplier naming ng mga panaflex signage. So hinayaan naman namin kasi akala namin ‘yun talaga gusto niya.

  She had kids sunod-sunod. Next thing I know, hindi na siya fresh. Bilis niyang nalosyang. Kaliwa’t kanan ang utang sa mga officemates namin.

  Marry someone because you know you can never live without that person in your life. Not because everybody is flashing how big their engagement rings are on Facebook.

  Hindi madali ang may asawa, neng. Marry when you’re emotionally, mentally physically and financially ready. Enjoy life, buy whatever you want with the money you earn, enjoy your job and the fruits of your labor. Go to places and travel a lot. These things you might not be able to do anymore when you’ve got a husband and kids to attend to.

  With the ex? Never mind him. He is not even suppose to be an issue in your life. Be the right and happy person you should be and the right person will come.

  

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