Settling With Someone You’re Uncertain To Be With

March 29, 2017

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  Hi DJ Chloe, pleasehide po identity q. I’m a fan of yours. Hingi lang po akong advice. Ano dapat kong gawin? I’m turning 38 this year and still single. Although nagka-boyfriend naman kaso ‘di ako pumunta sa point na may manghyari between us. Until I met a guy in a site. 2010 naging textmates kami until nagkapalagayan kami ng loob. Nagkikita lang kami true video chat kasi nagwo-work siya sa abroad and he’s Pinoy po. ‘Di naging official relationship namin ’til 2013 he asked me if kami na. So para sa’kin okay lang kasi nagkikita at nag-uusap naman. Unlike before ‘yung textmate ba, ni wala kang idea kung  anong itsura unlike now you see him. So simula noon naging close pa kami kaso siguro normal nalang na away-bati kayo. Until one day he ask me a favor na if ever will I give up my virginity to him to prove that I’m not lying to him tutal daw pupunta din kami dun at I’m not younger daw. So nainis ako hanggang sa nag-away kami kasi ‘di pa ‘ko ready. Hanngang sa nawala siya. Tapos recently we contact each other then he told me he’s still in love with me just like before at ganun din naman ako, DJ.  The same pa din ask niya sa’kin. And we have a have plan na to have family. ‘Yun ang sabi sa’kin. Ask ko lang po, will I give na ba or ignore ulit anyway I’m 38 na eh. Worried lang ako na ‘yun lang habol niya sa’kin at I want to have kids din po kasi mahirap mging single habang buhay. Even though nandyan family, iba pa din ‘yung sariling family or if I ignore it mawala na siyang tuluyan. And if ever man darating ‘yun the right person eh ‘di ko na siya mabigyan ng anak. Saan ako lulugar? Hope ma-advice mo ‘ko bilang isang tulad ko na babae, nagmahal din, at nanay sa anak mo. Hope you can help me po. Thanks and more power.

  Ms. Cancer girl

  Dear Ms. Cancer Girl,

  Sa edad mong 38, dapat nga mag-isip isip ka talaga. Dahil iningatan mo na sarili mo umabot ka sa edad na 38 na virgin ka pa. Tapos mauuto ka lang niyang palitaw mong boyfriend?? Palitaw kasi lilitaw bigla tapos mawawala tapos sasabihin ganun pa rin pakiramdam niya sa’yo. Malamang uuwi ‘yan ng Pinas kaya naghahanap ng “makakalaro” niya habang nandito siya.

  How well do you know this guy? Are you sure he is single?

  Para sa akin, hindi dapat pinoporblema ng isang babae ang kanyang kawalan ng karanasan.

  Let it be if you die a virgin, who cares? At least, you don’t have to worry about getting STD!

  You know what you need to be thinking of? It’s making yourself productive and progressive!

  There are so many things to be busy of in this world. Like feeding hungry kids on the street? Giving clothes to those who haven’t changed for years, na ang dami sa daan. Volunteering sa mga organizations na may mga cause, saving, investing, doing business, getting rich, buying a car, a house, marami! And it’s better for you to be very busy with these things than thinking about how to get banged! And have kids.

  Help people around you. I’ve done that without any banners, tarpaulin, social media posts, and I went home feeling so great and fulfilled. Try it. Feels so much better than sex.

  

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