Life Is Always About Your Choices

May 29, 2017

• 

   

  Hi DJ Chloe, it’s me again, Ace. If you could recall I sought for your advice when I was at my early stage of pregnancy. I took your advice. I left the irresponsible father of my child and decided to be on my own. Thankfully, I’m having a healthy pregnancy (unlike in my first high risk pregnancy). I came to realize that the stress that the father of my child has brought me during my first pregnancy was one of the reasons why I had a pre-term delivery and unfortunately my first born didn’t survive. I’m writing to you again to seek for an advice. Nearly term na ako and I have to decide whether or not to use the surname of the father of my child in my son’s birth certificate. We are not married. But I was thinking na karapatan ng anak ko na gamitin ang surname ng ama niya. Though I’m decided to raise my son single-handedly. I’m a strong, independent woman that’s why I never demanded a single centavo from him. And besides, he did not even care to provide anything knowing that I’m pregnant (that a*****e!) I have lots of plans after giving birth and one of those is to work abroad for a greener pasture and if maging okay ang career ko abroad, I would bring my son with me. DJ, naisip ko kasi baka mahirapan pa ako sa visa application ng anak ko if ever magkaiba kami ng surname or baka kailanganin pa ng consent ng father ang pagdadala ko sa anak ko abroad. As much as possible ayaw ko na din kausapin pa ang ama ng anak ko since alam kong wala naman siyang maidudulot na mabuti sa aming mag-ina. I’m confused. I hope you could enlighten me. Thanks.

  Ace

  Hi Ace!

  Seems you never learned. Nagpadalawa ka pa talaga. But well, at least you now have a boy, may anak ka na and that child should give you the direction you need in your life. Anyways, ang alam ko pwede ng gamitin ng bata ang apelyido ng ama kahit ‘di kasal sa’yo, but if you’re thinking na makakaapekto sa pagkuha ng passpsort, visa at sa maraming bagay dahil magkaiba kayo ng apelyido, then apelyido mo na lang ipagamit mo. I don’t think makakaapekto ‘yan sa kanya bilang tao basta’t palakihin mo ng tama. Kung karapatan ng ama ang iniisip mo, well, it starts with the idea or the fact that he should be supporting his child, which clearly, he doesn’t have any intentions of doing. So consider him as a specimen donor na lang para magkaanak ka. Once and for all, decide to put a stop to anything you have with him. If this guy is a hopeless case and you believe you are better off without him then stop getting yourself pregnant by him. The moment you start to make the right choices in life and in men, then your life will change, for the better.

  

• COMMENTS