Keep Your Enemy Under Your Feet

July 19, 2017

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  Hi there, DJ Chloe. How are you? Is it fine if I can open up something to you? Thanks in advance. I have a workmate here in the office who is, I don’t know, loves to compare and compete with me. She even frankly said those words to me– na sorry dahil ako ang magiging rason niya pra lagpasan niya ako sa mga susunod na buwan, sa mga success daw po na natatamasa ko. Not to carry my own chair, but I super THANK GOD for blessing me that much. I’ve been the Best HR Recruiter Assistant for four times since October 2016. Latest award was last week, July 13 as my 4th award. But I started as a failure, I just prayed almost every second of my work days just to get the goals I need and now God has given it to me, I ended up victorious! Last week, my manager and colleagues gathered for some game, they called as Magic Words: Thank you, Sorry and Please. Say that to whoever is in front of you. Accidently, that person is in front of me, maybe it’s destined for us to talk. I’ve been staying away from her like a couple of weeks already. Sabi nga nila, pag may naninira sa’yo, iwasan mo na lang at ipagdasal ‘yun. Ang kailangan nila ay ang pag-iintindi. Favorite line ko pa ang “I am too blessed to be depress” and “I started as a failure, I ended up victorious.” Of course, tamang work at dasal lang naman ang kailangan. Ewan ko po DJ, at lahat na lang sa’kin issue sa kanya. Sobra niya kinukuha ang loob ng boss namin pero sa awa ng Diyos mas naniniwla ang boss ko sa’kin.

  Ako na din po kasi ang pinakamatagal na HR, one year na po next month here sa Makati branch ng company. Lumaki din po akong hangga’t kaya ko manahimik hindi ko po talaga pinapatulan. Nasa isip ko po kasi mga magulang ko, which is hindi po palaaway. There are times, I want to be the first to approach to end up the awkward moments but my other workmates are not allowing me to do it and also part of myself. Baka daw po kasi mas lumaki ang ulo at yumabang, tandaan ko daw po na ako ang OIC. Sabi ko naman po wala na sa posisyon ‘yan if you’re mature enough and knows the right thing then do it. After all it’s about the goodness you’ve done. Nasa tao na if masama ang ibabalik sa’yo. Last time, nagsorry po ako dun kahit siya ang my fault, so kinarir nga ni ate girl. Actually, DJ ako po ang naghire sa taong ‘yun, under po siya sa supervision ko. I don’t know why at nakain ata ng sistema at pati ako kinokompetensya. Naiisip ko na nga lang po, “hay, naiinsecure sya sa isang lesbian,” so siya ang may kulang at hindi ako. We also have record ng mga call outs namin. Dun po kasi bine-base ang Best Recruiter aside from good performance, twice na po ‘pag chinecheck ko ang database may mga nadi-delete na numbers ng hires ko, nakakalungkot lang po. Even po ang pagrequest sa radio last time at binati niyo po kami syempre happy ang boss ko dun ay big deal na naman po. Whenever I help this person, ni “ha” or “thank you” man lang wala po akong nare-receive at sa other workmates po reklamo din nila ‘yun. She is tagged as ungrateful dahil dun. There are times na pinagtatakpan ko pa nga po ang team lalo na siya sa boss ko para lang po hindi mapagalitan dahil ayokong isipin nila na ginagamit ko ang posisyon ko to update my boss. I am just doing my job. Whatever position and success I have right now is PINAGHIRAPAN ko po ‘yun. I was bullied in my first month here but thank God ‘di ko po pinatulan ang taong ‘yun hanggang sa nagresign dahil sa health issues. See? Not that am happy pero naniniwala kasi po ako sa karma. Whatever you do unto others, good or mean, may kapalit siya. Sabi pa niya, “gusto ko makita kang magalit kasi napakabait mo masyado.” Luhhh, anong gusto niya maging masama ugali ko? Eh sa ganto po ako at pinalaki ng magulang ko, why would I be like her na mean? Hindi pwede ‘yun, this is me, mapagpapasensya hanggang kaya. Not to be righteous pero eto po talaga eh. For now, professional like pa din po ang trato ko sa kanya regardless of how she’s doing behind my back. Thanks for listening, DJ. I just need your further advise here. Do I need to apologize again for no reason and confront her? Or do nothing at all? Thank you so much and God Bless!

  Miss T

  Miss T,

  Alam mo ‘yung biruan pagnamimili ka lalo sa divisoria, ‘di ba? “Teh, patawad naman.” “Ba’t kita patatawarin, ano kasalanan mo?” (Mema lang) hahaha.

  Seriously, why keep apologizing kung wala ka namang kasalanan sa kanya? Anong problema niya sa’yo? Kung problema ka niya eh di ibig sabihin nun problemahin mo din siya.

  Alam mo, ako I always believe and I have proven this to be true, kahit saang industriya ka pa man nabibilang, at the end of the day IT IS THE QUALITY OF YOUR WORK THAT WILL SPEAK FOR YOU AND WILL DEFINE YOU.

  If she is under you, what’s the competition then? Eh under mo nga eh, why get affected?

  Why even waste your time thinking and being bothered by a person who’s not even the one paying you for your hard work? Like, duh?

  But you know what, all working situations need a kind of distance between people. There’s only one way to destroy an enemy and that is to make a friend out of that person. An enemy at your heels keeps you sharp, alert, and focused.

  In the corporate world, you will survive anything and everything if you have this virtue with you, PATIENCE. A lot of it. :)

  

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