Money, Siblings, And Everything In Between

July 25, 2017

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  Hi DJ Chloe,

  Gusto ko lang po sana humingi ng payo.

  I am the youngest of four siblings. I have two older sisters. The eldest is 38 then 37 ‘yung isa and may older bro is 25 years old. Now my problem is with my two older sisters. They did not finish their studies cause they got pregnant, halos sabay silang two. Now my eldest sister works in a call center the second sister previously works sa call center but stopped working na. My problem with my eldest sister is super YOLO and outgoing. She have four kids with different fathers and the problem is hindi niya kayang buhayin. My second sister the problem is palaasa and tamad, she has two kids now same naman ang father ang problem lang tumigil siya magwork kasi nag-asawa na naman siya and she got pregnant and now inaasa niya ‘yung two kids niya sa bago niyang partner. I hate them DJ Chloe, kasi parang ‘di na sila nadadala sa mga previous mistakes in life nila. They don’t strive to correct their mistakes.

  And when it comes to financial grabe tingin yata nila samin eh nagpapala ng ginto. They keep on having children na hindi naman nila kayang buhayin. They are so lazy when it comes to having a job and when they do ubos-ubos ang sweldo they don’t save kaya once may emergency samin ang lapit. I told our mom na they can’t expect any financial help from me, pero ako pa ngayon ang lumalabas na madamot. Ginapang ko po ang pag-aaral ko. I was a working-student and a scholar in a state university just to finish my studies. Nagtitipid ako ng sobra para makaipon kaya masakit sa’kin na basta-basta nalang ipahiram ang pera ko sa kanila ’cause I know na sila mismo ay hindi nagsisikap. I am only 22 DJ Chloe, ayoko na po talaga mastress sa kanila but I can’t get them out of my life ’cause they are my siblings. Also pala I never grow up with them. ‘Cause I’m still very young nu’ng nag-asawa sila. Also when me and my mother are experiencing too much poverty they acted like we were not their relatives. Masama lang ang loob ko na at times na ayaw ko ilabas ang hard-earned money ko ako pa ang lumalabas na madamot. I hope you can give me an adicee po thank you. :)

  Youngest

  Hi Dear,

  I understand where you’re coming from. Kahit naman ako hindi ako maglalabas lalo na’t paulit-ulit. Pera ko pinaghirapan ko. ‘Di ko basta-basta ipapamigay lalo’t sa mga taong walang alam sa buhay kundi humingi.

  Help them once , twice, okay lang siguro. Pero ang mangyayari nyan mamimihasa na.

  Tiisin mo.  Think about yourself always and your mom, who I presume is now aging. Kailangan mong unahin ang sarili mo.

  There’s nothing else and nothing more that I can tell you but to keep the faith and continue being a responsible human being and child to your mother.

  Work hard and save hard.

  Minsan ka ng nakaranas ng gutom. ‘Wag na wag ka ng babalik. Gawin mong salamin ang mga kapatid mo, na ‘wag silang panggayahan mo.

  And even if you get married in the future, make sure na patuloy kang magta-trabaho para sa pamilya mo at sa sarili mo.

  Hindi financial plan ang mga lalaki. It’s always best na hindi umasa sa iba , kundi palaging sa sarili mo at nasa Taas.

  Wala ka ng magagawa pa sa mga kapatid mo. They have already chosen what path to take. The most you can do is pray for them.

  

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