Men Are Not Financial Plans

October 26, 2017

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  Hi Dj Chloe,

  Just call me “Small Girl”. I need your advice. Naguguluhan po ako. I was separated sa asawa a year ago at nakakilala ako ng foreigner at nagkarelasyon kami ng almost one year but on and off. He is a nice man and honest, and responsible. Marami siya naitulong sa’kin ‘til now. May problem is pano ba gagawin ‘ko? At pano ako makakamove on sa kanya? Ginagawa niya na ‘kong tanga! He wants space first at he admitted that he has problems on commitment. Ako, I still want to be in his side kahit masakit aminin na nagmu-mukha na ‘kong tanga. Ano ba gagawin ko? Hindi ko na siya i-chat? Kahit siya nagbabayad ng rent namin sa bahay at patuloy niya akong pinag-aaral ng caregiver. Wala ‘kong trabaho sa ngayon. Mahal ko siya and sa pera na tinutulong niya. Please give me an advicee. Ano ba gagawin ko? Nasasaktan ako sa nalaman ko na magstay ang girlfriend niya for five days. At sinabi niya sa’kin na he will be really good. He’s still my friend and he still call me “mommy”. He is “kiwi man”, 53 years old. We separated because his desire is someone his own age and he lovse me not to be his wife. LDR ang relationship namin for a year. Please help me. What should I do to move on? Is it good for me to be still friends with him? Thanks for reading my message and I’m looking forward for your advice. Thank you, DJ Chloe and God bless you more.

  Small Girl From Cavite

  Hi Ate,

  Pagka ‘di na ba siya magbigay sa’yo ng pang rent ng bahay niyo, at ‘di ka niya padalhan ng pera for your caregiving course/studies, mahal mo pa ba siya? Baka naman kasi mahal mo lang siya kasi nagbibigay siya ng pera. Hindi mo naman siya kilala before, nabuhay ka naman ng wala siya, so ba’t ka mahihirapan magmove on? Mahirap talaga magdecide para sa’yo na ‘wag na siyang i-chat or kasuapin kasi papano na ang padala? ‘Di ba? If you want an honest life and a happy life, learn to stand on your own. Once you’ve learned how to do that may karapatan ka nang magmahal. Pero kung makikipagrelasyon ka para may bubuhay sa’yo, palagi ka na lang mangangamba na pag-iniwan ka, paano ka na.

  

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