Some People Just Can’t Help But Cheat

November 10, 2017

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  Hi DJ Chloe,

  I’m just a fan of yours and your station. Listening to you every day. I’m a bit confused and still figuring things out. By law, I’m still married to my ex-husband but our annulment is on-going. We have a son. Now, I have a live-in partner for four years, we also have a son, and I’m pregnant now. The problem is I caught him cheating on me. The first, that was two years ago, he’s flirting or some kinda having an affair with his co-employee. They planne to have sex but naudlot because I’ve found out thru their exchange of text messages. He said it was nothing. So ako si tanga, I forgave him. The second was last year. Nahuli ko again thru text, kasi he left his cellphone sa bed. This time sex involved kasi according to their conversation, nag pacheck-up daw si girl at nagdilang anghel si boy. So meaning, ‘di siguro siya nabuntis. I was shocked nun nabasa ko. Again, I confronted him, ending…forgive and forget. ‘Di na daw sya uulit. And now, recently, may nadiscover na naman ako na new girl. Again, naiwan niya ‘yung cellphone niya kasi may nag-PM sa kanya, and nakapreview ‘yun, saying that ang laki ng iniwan niyang mark sa neck ng girl. Nanlamig, nanghina, at parang nagpalpitate ako nun. Until now the issue is still open. ‘Di pa kami nag-uusap. What should I do? Forgive and forget again? Ang sakit-sakit na. Pagnaghiwalay kami, paano ‘yung anak namin at ‘yung parating pa? Wala naman siguro magiging problem if I ask financial support, ‘yun nga lang bachelor style siya. If I choose him naman to stay, masakit. Hindi siya nagkulang bilang ama sa anak namin. But as my partner, wala na ‘kong tiwala pa. Masakit kasi mahal ko pa rin siya kahit ganun ang mga nangyayari. Hahayaan ko na lang ba na magmukha akong tanga na kunwari ‘di ko alam ang pambabae niya? Or may alam at inaalam ang lahat para lng masaktan in the end? Please hide my identity because this issue is still unsolved.

  Anne

  Hi Anne,

  Ang sakit-sakit na, ‘di ba? So kaya pa ba?

  Dear, it is all up to you.

  Maraming babae, nagtitiis hanggang sa huli, nagbabago naman daw, pagnagkaedad na. So meaning pagmatanda na at aalagaan mo na, dun wala ka ng problema sa babae.

  Ewan ko ba. May mga nagtitiis, may mga inaalis ang sarili nila sa sitwasyon.
  So depende ‘yun sa’yo at sa kayang mong i-endure.

  Alam mo kung bakit paulit-ulit? Kasi patawad ka ng patawad. Bumababa na ang value mo sa kakapatawad. Paggumawa siya ng kalokohan alam niya patatawarin mo siya.

  May dependency ka kasi sa kanya kaya ‘di mo rin mabigyan ng ultimatum eh.
  He provides well siguro kasi sabi mo nga eh tingin mo you won’t have a problem. If hiwalayan mo and you ask for support, sure ka? Baka mashock ka paghiniwalayan mo ‘yan. Pahirapan kahit pambili ng diaper kung hihingi ka.

  So, ikaw kung kaya mong itolerate, tiis, dear.

  If hindi…alis.

  Ganun lang kadali ang buhay.

  Sana lang malakas ang loob mo kung makikipaghiwalay ka diyan. You might end up raising your kids alone, and get a little help from him lang. Or minsan wala pa.

  Ang babae, Anne, as much as possible, ke nanay ka pa o asawa ka, lalo na kung nanay ka. Dapat may sarili kang pera. Kung may kakayanan kang gumawa ng pera magtrabaho at kumita ng pera, ‘di ka magdadalawang isip iwanan ‘yan.

  

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