Actions Always Speak Better

November 21, 2017

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  Hi DJ Chloe,

  I’m an avid listener. Just call me Angela, I work as an admin secretary in Ortigas. Hope you can help me by giving me advice to my problem about an American guy I met few months ago. He came to Manila for few works in US gov’t project and a friend from common friend.

  When we first met we knew that we like each other. He invited me for dinner and drinks. It’s like he always wanted to see me and we’re always together. We are adults already so there’s always something happening and we enjoyed it. He always tells me that he likes me a lot and I feel very special. We enjoyed every moment together just like boyfriend/girlfriend we also travel and I sleep with him. Before he leave and go to another country for work he said he likes me and hope the future will be nice to us and wish me to see the snow with him. He said he has feelings and he wanted to communicate with me. We have mutual feelings. He is now in Germany for three months for his study and will be back to US to see his friends and family. He used to message me saying how much he misses me. Until two weeks ago, I felt that some things changed in him. He doesn’t message me the same. I understand he is working and studying. I’m not asking for his time but whenever I message him, he doesn’t message me back. I just saw in WhatsApp that he has seen my messages. Even simple hi or hello WALA! :( I feel sad now because I felt that I was ignore by him. Sabi niya distance makes me crazy, I’m overthinking. If there’s other girl daw sasabihin niya sa’kin para hindi daw ako maconfuse. From the last time we talked sinabi niya na “distance is difficult.” He doesn’t want to hurt me. Because he’s being aloof not because there’s other girl but because of distance. I’m not asking of his a lot but a simple message will do just to make me feel I’m not forgotten. It’s been one week now from the last time we talked. What makes me sad now is I saw him online in WhatsApp where we used to talk but I don’t get any message from him. Same in Facebook I send him message but prang hindi niya nababasa. Sometimes I get notifications he’s adding new girls. Dapat pa ba ako umasa at mag-antay ng messages niya. Please DJ Chloe help me understand and realize what’s been going on. Thanks and more power to your program.

  Hoping,

  Angela

   

  Hi Angela,

  Mahal mo kasi, in love ka na kasi, umasa ka na kasi na magkakaron kayo ng future, ‘di ba?

  Bakit naman nakapabig deal ang hindi man lang mag hi, hello sa’yo kung wala kang “pag-ibig” para sa kanya.

  Alam mo kasi sa ibang lahi lalo na sa mga Amerikano kahit naman sa mga pelikula makikita mo na ang kultura nila ay ganyan, ‘di ba? They go out, something happens, wala nga sa kanilang “I love you” and “I love you too” pagganyan eh. It’s part of dating.

  Sa ating mga Pinoy may mga ganyan na din pero usually ang ending crash and burn ang babae kasi ang ending akala niya sila na pero hindi pala. Akala ng lalaki okay lang sa babae kasi pumayag siya.

  Maybe he did like you but not too much to want to marry you now or have something serious with you.

  Distance is actually an acid test of what you and him had.

  The best thing to do is ask him and accept an honest answer para nga hindi ka na umasa.

   

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