You’ll Only Know When It Happens To You

January 22, 2018

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  Hello DJ Chloe,

  Please hide my identity. I fell in love with this guy I don’t know if I really fell in love or just don’t have any option, hehe. Anyway, I know that I am just the “other girl” not the other woman, umamin siya na may girlfriend siya because pinaamin ko and sa una. I don’t mind that, we are just friends pa lang naman but we are constantly texting each other almost every day, lifting me up because I recently broke up with my boyfriend. Then one time, I heard that my ex already had new girlfriend, I felt bad and once again he is there but this time may nangyari na sa amin. Somehow, I needed to be loved, accepted, and appreciated and I’m glad that he was there. I want to feel that he likes me but sometimes I feel that he just wants for “that” thing.

  One time when we were together, his girlfriend called. He lied, of course, I kept quiet to not cause any trouble, they are arguing, nagdududa si girl to the point na sumigaw na si guy due to nagging. After the call I asked him “Bakit hindi mo pa hiwalayan?” Sabi niya gusto pa niya ng may kaaway. I asked again, “Ano nagustuhan mo sa kanya?” He said, “Hindi ko alam.” That time I accepted talo na naman ako, I know that after all of those—us seeing each other from time to time, eh mahal pa rin niya ‘yung girlfriend niya. The realization hurts, when we part ways in the morning I asked him, “Ite-text mo pa ba ako?” He said, “Oo naman hindi pa tayo tapos.” As of now, I’m not texting him ulit, I am trying to neutralize my feelings para if ever magkita kami ulit hindi ko na maramdaman na in love ako sa kanya. I felt sorry for the girl but I don’t have any intentions na sirain ang relasyon nila. I hope walang mang-away sa akin if you post this letter of mine.

  Connie

  Hi Connie,

  Wala naman sigurong mang-aaway sa’yo at kung meron man wag kang mag-alala ‘di ka naman nila kilala.

  Pero I am sure wala namang matutuwa din sa’yo.

  Kaw naman, girl. Nag break up lang kayo ng boyfriend mo kailangan mo ng maramdaman agad na you feel accepted, appreciated, and loved? Ng iba? Agad-agad? Naramdaman mo ba naman? Parang hindi, kasi the way I see it, reading your letter, you felt used, ‘di ba nga sabi mo parang ‘yun lang ang gusto niya sa’yo?  Alam mo bihira ang lalaking hindi tatanggi sa libre na walang kahirap-hirap eh makukuha na nila. Imagine, libre, anytime pwede, wala pang bayad. I’m not saying kailangan mong magpabayad pero minsan maisip mo pa ang iba buti pa ang iba binabayaran for that eh. Ikaw, libre. Tapos iisipin mo pa ayaw mo makasira ng relasyon ng iba? Eh ano ginagawa mo?

  Imagine ikaw si girlfriend, pagtawag mo sa boyfriend mo may kasama palang iba, may katabing iba. ‘Di rin kaya umusok tenga mo sa galit niyan? Tsaka ano ba ‘yan. Sawsaw sa kabila, sawsaw din sa’yo?

  Pardon me for my words but if you have a slight problem with respecting yourself at least be afraid of STD?

  You asked “te-text mo pa ba ako?” Ano ‘yan, teh? Nagmamakaawa ng atensyon ang peg? Nagsisiguro ka?

  Hindi pa daw kayo tapos. Oo, kasi ‘di pa sawa sa’yo. Libre ba naman eh, wala kang angal, kahit walang commitment. Masakit sa ulo, sobra.

  You felt sorry for the girl? Hahahaha! Talaga? Oh tuwang-tuwa ka kasi galit na galit siya na hindi niya alam sino kalaban niya samantalang ikaw gandang-ganda ka sa sarili mo dahil niloloko siya at dahil ‘yun sa’yo? Saang part ka naaawa sa kapwa mo babae dyan ha?  Alam mo girl, minsan you will only understand the gravity of what you’re doing to others when it happens to you.

  Magtino ka nga! 2018 na!!!!!  Ang daming lalakiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiii!!!!!!!!!!!

  

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