Betrayal Destroys You

April 5, 2018

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  Good day DJ Chloe,

  I don’t know how to start this. All I want is a good advice from someone who didn’t know me. I have this kind of stress and confusion about my 14-year relationship, with two (2) kids. We’re not yet married, yes, for that long. I don’t know why we weren’t. There’s so many instances that he had an affair with somebody. So many to mention. He has been a playboy/f*ckboy since then. And I unintentionally, always, find out about it. It was so devastating every time I caught him thru cellphone. Years passed, over and over, again and again, I still have strength to forgive him. I don’t know, but at this point of my life, I felt that I’m being toxic and tired about those common issues that we had. He has always been a good provider and I know that he loves me. He never changed, the way he treats me, the way he cuddles, the way he loves me. But the thing is, he still doing the same mistake. I don’t want to elaborate everything but as far as I know, he’s betraying me again. I don’t know what to do. I’m tired. I’m thinking about my two (2) kids. How their lives will be when I give up. He worked as professional that’s why he can provide everything for our kids. And I don’t have any job to offer a good future for them. I just want a good and practical advice, for me realize something. For me to think about myself without hurting my kids. I want to feel free from this stress. We already talked about separating but he rejected, he said, he loves me. But he can’t promise me that he will never flirt to someone again. It’s so hard to decide. Please help. I hope, I’ll receive a heart-warming advice from you guys. Thank you so much for reading this. God bless… and more power!

   

  Hi there!!!

  Ang sasabihin ng iba, basta sa’yo umuuwi okay lang ‘yan. Kaso hindi ka naman bato at lalong hindi ka manhid, ‘di ba? Nasasaktan ka eh at sa puntong ito sa klase ng mga post mo sa Facebook na sinilip ko (namasyal ako sa account mo) I can totally say wasak na wasak na girl ang self-esteem mo, kahit i-filter mo ang mga pics, halata ang lungkot sa mga mata mo.

  Ang hirap sa lahat na problema is babaerong asawa, nakakapangit ‘yan, sis, delikado ka pang magkasakit, mas kawawa ka sa huli.

  You want a practical advice? Magtiis ka dahil iniisip mo na agad na wala kang kayang maibigay sa mga anak mo kaya magtiis ka na lang.

  Pero kung gusto mong bigyan ng respeto ang sarili mo, susmaryosep sa 14 years with two kids ni hindi ka inalok magpakasal, hindi pa ba sapat yan na dahilan para mag-isip-isip ka na rin?

  Depende kasi ‘yan, sis, sa ano ang kaya mong i-take?

  If you want to stop taking shit from him, you’ll leave but then again you do not have a job.  Well, why not start planning on finding one or doing a business? Start with what you have, with what you can, right now! Hindi ka kasi siguro busy. Sis, mag-aral ka kaya kahit magbake ng napakasarap na banana cake at simulan mong ibenta sa mga kaibigan muna. Baka pag santambak na ang order sa’yo, hindi mo na maisipan pakialaman ang cellphone nyan o alamin kung may nilalandi na naman  at masaya ka na laging nag bibilang ng ipon mo na pwedeng maging simula ng pagbabago sa buhay mo.

  Pagganyan kasi agad ang mindset mo, “wala akong trabaho,” “‘di ko kaya,” “pano mga anak ko?” Wala. Tiis ka na lang bastusin palagi. Pambabastos ‘yan. Baka ‘di mo alam.

  Girl, ang ganda mo para sa jowa mo. ‘Wag mong antaying pumangit ka na sa kunsumisyon at hindi mo na makilala ang sarili mo pagharap mo sa salamin.

  

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