Build & Start Again

April 17, 2018

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  Hello DJ Chloe,

  I’m an avid listener of your station 96.3 Easy Rock. I admire you also sa mga binibigay mong advice sa mga listener mo. I never thought na darating ‘yun time na ako naman ‘yung need magseek ng advice galing sa ibang tao. I have a four-year relationship with a girl, may anak siya, six (6) years old, daughter. Tanggap ko naman siya and everything goes smooth until April 4. Nagmessage siya bigla sa akin na bumalik na ‘yung father nu’ng bata and we need to be apart na. Para akong nabagsakan ng tadhana that time. Sobrang sakit dahil sobra ko na siyang minahal and we plan to get married by December this year. She said kailangan daw niya gawin ito para sa bata para makasama nito ‘yung true father. Iyak ako ng iyak asking her ‘wag naman niya gawin ito pero still iniwan pa rin niya ak. I don’t know paano ako makapag move-on pero every time naiisip ko siya I kept in tears pa rin dahil we had so much good memories together. It’s been a burden to me dahil I feel cheated and nafeel kong naging panakip-butas lang ako. I’m trying to forget her, delete ko na lahat ng picture namin together sa Facebook pero I think ‘di pa rin iyon sapat to ease the pain. I hope, DJ Chloe, mabigyan ng advice a great way para makalimutan ko siya and finally makapagmove-on. Thank you and more power.

  Mr. Hurting

  Hi po!!

  Wala po kasing gamot para makalimot. Wala din gamot para mawala ang sakit. It’s really something you have to go through and eventually get over with.

  Hindi madali ang magmove-on talaga, lalo’t maraming memories. Kahit naman magdelete ka it will keep playing in your mind. And since everything starts in the mind. It’s also a matter of deciding to immediately change your thoughts once na maisip mo na naman siya.

  Kailangan din bigyan mo ang isipan mo ng mga bagong iisipin. Like keeping yourself busy with work. Lots and lots of work na sa sobrang pagod niyo pag-uwi niyo tulog kagad kayo. Work is a very effective antidote for a broken heart.

  Going on a vacation will also help. Praying about what you feel and asking God to take away the pain will also work.

  Alam mo, kuya, para lang sa akin ha, it’s not because of the kids kaya siya nakipagbalikan sa ama ng bata. It’s because she still loves the father of her child. ‘Pag natanggap mo ‘yan makakahinga ka ng maluwag.

  Hayaan mo silang mabuo. Marami ka pang pagkakataon makahanap ng iba at bumuo rin ng sariling pamilya.

  

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