I am not yet ready for him and his kids

September 10, 2018

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  Dear DJ Chloe,

  Kumusta po kayo? Sana ma-notice niyo po ang sulat kong ito, this is my first time to do this.

  Hindi na ako magpapaligoy-ligoy pa, I’m 27 years old, single pero may boyfriend po ako for two (2) years now. Ang boyfriend ko po, annulled na and he has kids with the previous wife na nasa puder niya. Three (3) kids actually.

  Okay naman kami ng mga bata, siguro dahil we still don’t live together, I mean under one roof. The thing is, gusto na ng boyfriend ko na magsama kami, magpakasal, and honestly, medyo cold feet ako. I honestly feel na parang ‘di ako ready maging nanay ng  mga anak niya.

  Normal lang ba ‘to? O naiisip ko rin baka ‘di ko siya ganun kamahal or katanggap ang sitwasyon nya dahil sa pakiramdam kong ito? Should I be honest with him about this?

  Lucy

  Hi Lucy!

  Honesty is the best policy, ‘di ba? And the truth will set you free.

  It’s not good to also be in that relationship if you’re half-baked about it. And you’re being unfair to him if you feel that way pala, eh mukhang seryoso siya sa’yo.

  But you know, if you will have to make a decision, always decide on what will give you a good sleep. Meaning, decide on what will give you peace and happiness.

  Don’t ignore your gut feelings. Sa totoo lang hindi rin magiging madali para sa’yo ang sitwasyon na kung sakali eh papasukin mo, lalo’t hindi ka handa para dito. I will no longer state kung ano ang magiging mga struggles mo sa ganyang setup, ‘coz the mere fact na nalilito ka na ngayon is more than enough for you to think about it 100x.

  Good luck, Lucy.

  

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