I really like him and I’m willing to give myself to him

September 17, 2018

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  Hi DJ Chloe,

  I hope you are well. I just want to ask advice from you. I’m feeling blue right now. I met this guy in school. At first, he used to like me, and he does special things with me. We used to talk to each other in text or chat as if there’s no tomorrow. But when he knew that I’m still a virgin and no experience at all he distanced himself with me. He was my first kiss. After that he told me to move on and find a boyfriend. He said that he prefers a woman with experience. He is known as a player in our school. There was an incident when we were out clubbing with my friends. My friend told me na ihatid niya ako pauwi but he rejected it. I cried. I thought he likes me that night at may pag-asa pa ulit kami because he kissed me and beame flirty with me. I cried, I asked if I’m ugly and he told me I was very pretty that night. That’s why hindi niya ako hinatid kasi iniiwasan niya may mangyari sa amin. Then he also told me he has a girlfriend but when my friends ask him or others asks him if he has a girlfriend he said that he is single. There’s so many questions in my mind. Why DJ Chloe? Why he is telling me that he has a girlfriend when he is telling everyone that he is single and ready to mingle? Is it his way to tell me na magmove on ako and there is no hope for us? Should I be happy because he is respecting me and maybe he thought I am for a long-term relationship? Or hindi lang niya talaga ako gusto? Sabi niya sa akin saka na pag may experience na ako. Bakit ganun? Ano ba ibig niya sabihin? Whenever I remind him how close we were before to each other, he told me to stop talking about it and leave it in the past. I really like him and I’m willing to give myself sa kanya. Pero whenever I start to open that with him he kept telling to stop and just focus with my studies. What to do, DJ Chloe? Please help!

  Miss R

  Hi Miss R,

  Parang ang baba ng self-esteem natin, hija. Ang laking problema sa’yo na virgin ka pa at inaayawan ka niya dahil wala kang experience? ‘Di ba dapat nare-realize mo na hindi boyfriend material itong lalaking ito? I think you’re in love while he is just in lust. Know the difference. You are willing to give yourself to someone like him, na hindi ka naman sure kung gusto ka or what or anong intention sa’yo. Wala na bang halaga sa’yo ang pagiging malinis mo? What if you give yourself to this guy tapos mabuntis ka? Or worse magkasakit ka? ‘Di mo ba alam na ang taas na ng number ng may HIV sa Pilipinas? Naloloka ako. Sa totoo lang, ‘di ko alam pwede ko sabihin sa’yo. Kasi kahit sa pakikipagchat mo sa akin, no matter how much sense I put into your head it seems you feel so rejected dahil lang sa ayaw kang anuhin. Is that the only thing that matters to you now? Or maybe ayaw niya talaga sa’yo, baka alibi niya lang na dahil nga wala kang karanasan kaya umiiwas siya? If I were you, ‘wag mong problemahin ‘yan dahil una, ang bata mo pa at hindi nakakahiya na virgin ka pa at your age. Someday you will meet the man you deserve, but definitely…hindi siya ‘yun.

  

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