I still love my ex-girlfriend

September 26, 2018

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  Hi DJ Chloe,

  Good day! I just want to seek an advice. I’m lance 38 years old. Sorry medyo lengthy ‘yung letter ko. This is about my ex-girlfriend. Nakapagconfess na rin po siya dito I think months ago. We broke up almost fiver (5) years na po and I don’t know if she is really happily married or talagang may paninindigan. She is really beautiful inside and out, actually na-love at first sight ako sa kanya dahil siguro sa perseverance ko and my clean intention. Naging girlfriend ko po siya, by the way po I’m married na pero hiwalay na po ako sa asawa bago ko pa sya naging girlfriend. I find her more beautiful nu’ng naging kami she is really perfect, she loves my family so much. Kaso all of a sudden she broke up with me and told me na” I love you, pero it’s not enough to continue what we have, I can’t afford to disobey my parents. I love them so much and gagawin ko kung ano ‘yun gusto nila para sa’kin and sorry ‘di kita kayang ipaglaban.” Dun natapos lahat, tumigil ‘yung mundo ko, halos mamatay ako nun. Mahal na mahal na mahal ko siya sobra, then after a few months nalaman ko my boyfriend na siya and may plano na magpakasal. Halos lantang gulay ako nun. ‘Di ko siya masisi kasi mahal niya parents niya kaso nasa edad na siya sana inisip nya rin ‘yun happiness niya at maiintindihan din naman siguro siya. Fast forward po, may girlfriend ako ngayon but still I’m deeply in love with my ex. ‘Di ko maibigay ‘yung buong pagmamahal ko sa girlfriend ko now kasi I’m hoping na makukuha ko ulit yung ex ko. Recently po, nakita ko si ex all by herself sa mall, then nilapitan ko, nagkagulatan then I offer her a coffee then nakapag-usap. Still beautiful pa din siya sobra at lalo ko siya namiss. Then she told me kumusta. Sabi ko, “eto mahal pa rin kita.” Then she told me while smiling, “‘di naman nawawala ‘yan andyan lang sa puso natin kaso we have to face the reality tsaka more complicated kung pu-push mo ‘yan.” Hangang ngayon matigas talaga siya. On and off po kasi ‘yung communication naming. ‘Pag feeling niya na sweet na hinihinto niya ‘yung communication namin ‘di daw tama ‘yun. Then after a couple of months meron ulit. Then I found out she’s helping my sister pala ‘pag may problema emotionally or financially kahit tagal ng wala kami at lalo ko pa ata siyang minahal. Sabi nga ng barkada siya lang daw ang babaeng minahal ko ng sobra at nagpabago sa’kin. For the past five (5) years until now siya pa rin bukang bibig ko. Siya pa rin ang mahal ko at alam ko po na mahal niya pa ‘ko. Honestly, she is really straight forward at nasabi niya ‘yun na mahal niya pa ‘ko kaso talagang ‘di p’wede. Sorry baka sabihin niyo advance ako mag-isip. Pero ramdam ko po ‘yun at in front of me sinabi niya ‘yun. DJ, please, what do I have to do? Mahal ko siya, sobra. Lahat-lahat gagawin ko. Please help po. Ayaw ko mawala ‘yung communication ko sa kanya ngayon kasi binigyan niya ulit ako ng saya at ng dahilan to work hard every day. I love her so much more than words po. I can’t blame her sa decision niya pero deserve niya/namin maging masaya. I don’t know how to convince her that she deserves to be happy. Thank you po for taking time to read my letter. Need your advice badly. More power to your program. You are really one of a kind favorite niya po ‘yung segment niyo as well ‘yung station niyo. We used to listen together before. Again, thank you po ng madami. God bless you po.

  DJ Chloe

  Hi Lance,

  First, let go of your current girlfriend. She doesn’t deserve this. She also is deserving of someone who will love her like how you love your ex-girlfriend so let go mo siya, ok? Second, love her until you want to, but don’t do anything about it because she is already married. Para kasi sa akin, wala ka ng dapat pang gawin eh, may asawa na siya and she has made a choice already and that choice doesn’t involve you. Sa’yo na mismo nanggaling, “Honestly, she is really straight forward at nasabi niya ‘yun na mahal niya pa ‘ko kaso talagang ‘di p’wede.” So, ‘wag na nating ipilit ang hindi pwede.

  

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