We cannot be lovers because of our status in life

October 3, 2018

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  Good morning!

  Just want to ask advice /opinion. Follower mo din ako and I even wrote you a letter before. I’m married with one (1) child, grade 9 na siya ngayon. I’m on a medical field, three (3) years na ako dito sa pinapasukan ko. Meron akong naging kasama sa work, four (4) times a week lang siya nagpupunta dito and we became very close. Married na din siya with one (1) son in senior high. He said that he loves me and eventually naprove niya din ‘yung sinasabi niya sa akin. But we agreed na we cannot be lovers but best friends because of our situation/status in life.

  By the way, I’m much older than him. We’re on constant communication thru text hanggang nahuli siya ng wife niya that he deleted the massages na naging cause ng away nila. And nag-investigate ang wife niya to found out na ako nga ‘yung ka-exchanges niya. Naging magulo ‘yung situation. He defended me. He didn’t give my name and number and so many people defended me para hindi ako masugod ng wife. Since wala naman talaga kaming relationship kaya ginawa nila sa akin ‘yun. But lately, naging very vocal na ‘yung guy na he wants the public knows that he loves me. Nagalit ako na naging reason para magresign siya sa work. After few days nagkausap ulit kami and naayos ‘yung misunderstanding namin. He wants to go back sa work because the only reason he left the work because ‘yung galit ko. But nalaman ng wife na he wants to go back (by the way una palang nalaman ng wife ‘yung exchanges pinapagresign na siya but hindi siya pumayag.) The wife called my employer and asking na ‘wag na siya accept ulit. She explained what she believes happening here. Good thing, hindi naniwala ‘yung employer ko and she said may problem ‘yung wife. Now, I’m thinking if dapat ko na bang isuko or let go ‘yung friendship namin kahit it’s purely friendship lang. We treated each other as best friends. Even though he said that he loves me, we both know that hindi pwede and hindi dapat. ‘Yun naman ang agreement naming. “We will stay married but we will be best friends at the same time.” No problen in my side because my husband is open minded. But because of what’s happening I’m thinking if it’s worth it to fight for our friendship. Last week, we agreed that we won’t give up on each other. Pasensya na po sa haba ng letter.

  A friend to a friend.

  Hi!

  The problem my dear is you will never be able to convince the wife that you are just best friends…nothing more nothing less.

  Ikaw ba, kung ginugulo ka na at inaaway ka na, tuloy ka pa rin ba? Napakarami namang tao sa mundo, dear, para maging friend ‘wag na dun sa friends nga kayo pero ginegyera ka naman ng asawa. Besides alam mo sa sarili mo na may gusto sa’yo at may something special kayo, ‘di ba? So para walang gulo, iwasan.

  Nakakastress kaya ang mga ganitong bagay and eventually you will get tired, so if you have the chance always choose your battles.

  Ang daming p’wedeng maging friend. Hindi lang ‘yang friend mo na ‘yan.

   

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