My boyfriend admitted that he’s talking to a girl in office

October 16, 2018

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  Hi DJ Chloe,

  Please hide my identity. I badly need your advice po. Naguguluhan po ako kung ano at sino po ang papakinggan. Nagkaissue po kami before ng boyfriend ko. May inamin siya about sa nakakausap niyang girl sa office recently and sabi niya na kahit konti ‘di siya nagkagusto sa girl. Kinakausap niya ‘yung girl about work and somehow kasi ‘yung girl ay ate ng college best friend niya kaya for him it’s just a friendly conversation. Pero it turns na nagkagusto ‘yung girl sa kanya then he decided not to talk to her again. Pero I’m still not 100% that he regained my trust again. Kasi po nagsasama na kami for about a year na, and we actually both don’t know our passwords sa phone, and my friends are saying na baka may tinatago pa siya since he is not 100% willing to share at least his password on his phone. Pero I do respect his privacy kaya naman ako pumayag. Pero I thought na since nagkaissue recently at may involve na girl, akala ko bibigyan na niya ako ng assurance para ‘di ako mag-overthink at mag-isip na may tinatago siya. Pero mali ako. ‘Di man lang nya inoffer sa’kin na ibigay ‘yung password ng phone niya. I am not actually asking, lagi lang ako nagpaparinig pero hindi siya tinatablan eh. And I lately realized na awkward pala talaga na parang may tinatago siya. Kahit spare phone niya I asked him the password last time kasi gngamit namin ‘yun to listen on your station pero he didn’t give me the password.

  Sa tingin niyo po ba may tinatago pa rin siya sa’kin? Minsan kasi nafifeel ko, kahit mapasilip lang ako sa phone niya I feel the awkwardness and may times na parang iniiwas niya na masilip ko ‘yung phone niya. I don’t really know what to do. Kasi sinasabi ng mga best friends ko kung wala siyang tinatago dapat nu’ng nagkaissue kami or right from the start kahit papano binigay niya na sa’kin ‘yung ganung assurance or makikita ko ‘yung willingness from him to share it. Pero never ko po nafeel ‘yun. I respect his privacy po talaga kaya ako pumayag initially. Pero ngayong nagkaron kami ng issue, mas lalong nadagdagan mga iniisip ko if may tinatago ba siya sa’kin or wala. Please help me po. Maraming salamat!

  Hi Ate,

  So inamin niya sa’yo na nakikipag-usap siya dun sa ate ng college best friend niya na ‘di mo alam, at about work ‘yun pero nagkagusto sa kanya.

  Well s’yempre, side niya lang ‘yun at pagnakausap mo si girl baka may ibang version, hahahaha! Nanggatong pa ako.

  But seriously, kung may password ang phone niya, hayaan mo siya. Ang password ay protection ‘yan sa phone at sa mga maaari mong makita or malaman sa phone niya. At karapatan niya ‘yun. Magpassword ka din para fair.

  I don’t think knowing his password will give you an assurance of some sort or even peace of mind. Baka nga mawindang ka pa lalo. So spare yourself from whatever it is that might hurt you. ‘Di ba nga, what you don’t know won’t hurt you.

  Ang lalaki, malayo man at malapit din, kung mambababae at lolokohin ka gagawin niya ‘yan. And it’s not because of you…choice niya ‘yan.

  What you can do is not to focus too much on him. Be a better woman, person, not for him but for yourself.

  Love him and take care of him while he is yours and show him anong mawawala sa kanya kung malaman mong niloloko ka niya…and mean it.

  Now if you think knowing his password will give you peace, once and for all, ask him ano password niya. ‘Wag kang parinig. ‘Pagbinigay eh di okay. ‘Paghindi, well, wala kang magagawa.

   

   

   

   

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