You don’t find time, you make time

June 24, 2019

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  Hi DJ Chloe and to all of your listeners, just want to ask for words of wisdom po. ?

  Please hide my identity po.

  He waited for my ‘yes’ for almost three (3) years and we’re currently going on our 4th anniversary this year. Pero ngayon pong tumatagal nalilito na po ako. Hindi ko po alam kung ako po ba ‘yung nagbago or siya? First year of our relationship was awesome because we were active in church. Our mentors taught us about love and I think that our foundation was good enough. Tinuruan po kaming tulungan ang isa’t isa, maggrow (with or without each other’s presence) and okay naman po kami dun kasi may trust na kami sa isa’t isa. Super opposite po kami sa isa’t isa, introvert po ako and extrovert siya; kilala naman na po talaga namin ‘yung isa’t isa and we respect our differences. Pero lately po kasi parang madami na siyang activities and feeling ko po minsan wala na kaming time (Saturday-Sunday lang po kami nagkikita and dito po siya sa’min natutulog). I tried to tell him about it but he thinks I was just confused and misinterpreting things. Ayoko naman po magmakaawa na bigyan niya ‘kong time, I want him to be sensitive what to prioritize and how to manage his sched. Pag nag-uusap po kami about this isang sorry niya lang hindi ko po talaga siya matiis, kahit sabihin ko sa sarili ko na tiisin siya wala pa din po talaga. Kaya minsan paulit-ulit na po ‘yung nangyayari, magsosorry lang siya tapos next week ganon pa din. Love ko naman po siya natatakot lang po ako na baka nagsasawa na ko. Ayoko pong pumayag na pag wala siyang important sched tsaka niya lang ako naiisip baka po kasi masanay siya ng pang ganon lang ako. Pag lagi ko po siyang pinagbibigyan and ayoko din naman po kalimutan ‘yung value ko as much as I can forgive him always. I don’t want to change who he really is and thru the years never ko naman po siyang pinagbawalan sa mga activities niya. But I just want to feel that he values me by spending time with me.

  Thanks and lots of love,

  X

  Hi Miss X,

  So time ang problema natin? You feel kulang ang time niya sa’yo? Did you try talking to him and telling him about what and how you feel? Saturday and Sunday kayo nagkikita and he sleeps there sa bahay niyo? You still see each other every week, ‘di pa ba okay ‘yun? Kailangan ba araw-araw? Baka napapansin mo lang kasi hindi ka masyadong busy, why not find things to be busy with also? Minsan ang kilig at araw-araw na nagkikita o magkasama sa umpisa lang talaga. If time is what you want tell him how much time you want to spend with him. Sometimes kailangan mong maging specific sa mga lalaki, hindi sila mind reader at hindi rin sila mahilig mag read between the lines. Mas malalaman mo pa na ganyan sila pag-asawa mo na ‘yan. Kailangan specific. You want him to be sensitive what to prioritize and how to manage his sched? Sabihin mo sa kanya ang gusto mo, hindi ‘yan manghuhula, dear.

  

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