You are not forsaken

July 30, 2019

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  Dear DJ Chloe,

  A blessed day to you. Everyday nakikinig ako ng program mo dahil inaabangan ko talaga ‘yung mga nagse-send sa’yo ng letters and of course your advices. Hindi ko akalain, DJ Chloe, na darating ‘yung time na ako mismo hihingi ng advice sa iyo. Here’s my story, I am a widow mag-one year na.

  But the pain is still there. I’m trying to accept everything dahil sabi nga ng iba wala na akong magagawa. Napakadaling sabihin pero sa akin SOBRANG SAKIT. Heart enlargement, ‘yun ang sabi ng doctor na ikinamatay ng husband ko. Ang hirap sa akin dahil hindi ko naman alam na may ganung problem pala siya sa health niya. After his death, dumating ‘yung time na sinisisi ko ang sarili ko sa madaming bagay na dapat ginawa ko na para sa kanya. Maraming SANA. Now I’m continuing to breathe because of my children. Hindi ako dapat bumigay or sumuko dahil sa mga bata. Kahit pa madalas parang gusto ko na sa SOBRANG lungkot.

  We’ve been friends for 11 years and 17 years as couple. Work and family lang ang mundo ko, DJ Chloe. Few friends but no social life. Very independent ako kaya siguro mahirap sa akin na magshare sa iba. Dumating din ‘yung time na SOBRANG depressed ako to the point naiisip ko ‘yung end, pero naisip ko mga bata nagiging unfair ako sa kanila and naalala ko sa isang teleserye na ang sabi “may oras para sumuko ang isang asawa, pero ang isang ina ay walang karapatan na sumuko para sa mga anak niya.” Alam mo ba every time na naiisip ko na wala na ang husband ko, tila may mabigat na bagay na nakadagan sa puso ko and parang may milyong-milyong karayom ang ibinabaon dito. Alam ko naman na sa laban na ito kalian man hindi ako mananalo. Please enlighten me, maybe it can help. Thanks for your time and more power.

  JPD

  Hi po!!

  I hope those who are reading this, sana may matutunan tayo. Let us all be responsible enough to have ourselves checked at least once a year. Pati na rin mga partners niyo, asawa niyo, kulitin niyo na magpa-check din. Samahan niyo para hindi kayo nabibigla na malaman niyo na lang one day, may iniinda palang sakit.

  Anyways, tama naman sila, wala na tayong magagawa, kasi wala na siya. Pero ikaw nandito pa, at may mga anak ka na naiwan sa’yo, and you owe it to them to be strong, to take care of yourself, and to make sure that you will be okay. Kasi kailangan ka pa nila.

  You know my dad died last year, biglaan din, cardiac arrest. He was so strong, he drives Manila to Bicol and back at his age of 67. No goodbyes. Before he died kausap ko pa eh, kaya I know how you feel. ‘Yung bigla, sobrang unbelievable na wala na, na ‘di mo na makikita kahit kalian. Bilang anak, ang fear ko hindi na ‘ko pwedeng sumablay pa sa buhay, wala na akong aatrasan, wala ng sasambot sa akin. Several times na akong sumablay and my father has been there para sambutin ako lagi. I realized during the last years of his life all he did was to guide me and I’m glad. I am so glad I listened to him and I obeyed.

  Same with you, almost 50 years sila lang ng mom ko ang magkasama araw-araw. Mula paggising hanggang pagtulog, same line of work, same office. Ang dami ring “sana” ng mom ko. Until now we are still not over our loss, lalo na ang nanay ko. But we are thankful with the thought that he is now with our Creator, and we know he has served our God well when he is still here on earth kaya I am sure He is with Him. This gives us peace, you know.

  I’d always tell my mom, maybe he was taken away from you because you’ve been so dependent on him. The Lord now wants you to totally depend on Him, this time without papa.

  So, I’m telling you the same thing, may Diyos tayo. God allowed these things to happen so that we cling to Him, accept that things are now different. Let me share this verse with you, for I’ve drawn strength from this promise.

  2 Corinthians 12:9

  “My grace is all you need. My power works best in weakness.” So now I am glad to boast about my weaknesses, so that the power of Christ can work through me.

  Now that you don’t have a husband, start having a relationship with the Lord, talk to Him about your fears, your hopes, your wishes. Every day, you can even cry to Him. In time you will know and will understand that having a personal relationship with Him is the most fulfilling and satisfying relationship you’ll ever have in this life. God knows what you need, allow Him to take care of you and your children.

  God promised to take care of the fatherless and the widow. Believe in His promise, because He who promised is faithful.

  

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