Chloe’s Inbox – Grief is a phase that you have to go and grow through

November 18, 2019

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  Dear DJ Chloe,

  You got my attention when you mentioned about how it’s almost Christmas. And that we should start thinking about what to give our loved ones. You just got me there, wala na kasi akong reregaluhan ngayong pasko. I mean, I still have some relatives, mga inaanak, but the one person that’s constant in my life left me already and has joined our Creator. This is my first Christmas without him, and I don’t know if I will be able to even appreciate the twinkling of the lights, and the busyness of everyone. How and where do I start? I hope you can at least help me feel better.

  Lina

  Hi Lina,

  I think I must’ve felt that way too when my dad died last year. The first Christmas was the hardest for my mom. Ako sanay na ako na hindi sila kasama minsan ‘pag pasko but not having one of parents literally for Christmas is a different thing. I think you just get by. There is no formula in moving on after a loved one dies. You just live one day at a time. What makes me feel better is the thought and knowing that my dad is already with Jesus and that he is finally free from any burden which all of us left here still endures. There is nothing that can make you feel and be ready for the death of a loved one. But in knowing that he is where he should be and that if with our Savior is enough to console me and make me feel better. It’s a process and you start by praying to God about the pain every time you feel it.

  

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