Chloe’s Inbox – Mothers can’t just quit on their children

December 5, 2019

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  Dear DJ Chloe,

  I’m an avid follower, liker, and sometimes commenter din ng mga letters posted sa Chloe’s Inbox mo. Marami akong natututunan at madalas ang inaantay ko talaga ang mga quotes na ipino-post mo para sa mga letter sender mo. Sumusulat ako sa’yo ngayon, pero hindi ito para sa akin. This is for my officemate na ka-close ko na din, she is a single mom. And since you are also a single mom, I believe makakatulong ka sa iniisip niya ngayon. She is thinking of sending her daughter muna sa tatay nito kasi medyo hirap siya sa expenses ng bata. She has asthma and the need for maintenance is truly heavy for her. Plus, idagdag pa na she is also sending her to school. The father doesn’t want to give monthly support for the child and gusto niya ibigay sa kanya ang bata. May asawa na ang guy at may isang anak na rin. My friend is close to giving in, please tell her what to do. Kasi mababasa niya din naman ang magiging advice mo, if not maririnig niya pa dahil lagi naman kaming nakatune-in sa office. Thank you and more power.

  Sandy

  Hi Sandy!

  I presume the daughter is probably in elementary? I understand your friend. Single moms like us, who has a child with a special need, sometimes wish we can take a break or we have normal kids, not having to buy any meds. But this is life, I don’t think it’s a good idea to give up the child or to give the child to the father. What’s best is to compel the dad to support. Alam niyo maraming lalaki na ang naaabswelto sa pagbibigay ng suportang pinansyal sa mga iniwan nilang anak dail hinahayaan nating mga nanay. There are lawyers who can help her with this, may PAO din naman na p’wedeng tumulong. If the father is able, kayang sumuporta, he will be compelled to support. Sasabihin ng iba, maaring ‘di naman ma-obliga magbigay ng malaki. Yes, true. Pero maoobliga pa rin and it’s better than nothing. The moment na maistorbo ‘yan sa sunod-sunod na pagpapatwag sa kanya ng korte para sa hearing, mas nanaisin niyang magsuporta sa anak niya. Sinasampolan ‘yan dapat dahil hindi p’wedeng basta na lang ibigay ang bata sa kanya, ano ‘yan tuta? Unless terminally ill ang ina at walang mapag-iwanan ng anak niya, pwede pa. Pero hangga’t may lakas ka at kaya mo, isa lang naman ‘yan na anak mo, igapang mo na.

  

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