Man Up!

December 16, 2015

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  Hi, Dj Chloe!

  I’m an avid fan of Easy Rock and I always listen to your station everyday and play with my steel flute with the songs I know. Most especially the 90’s songs. You can call me “Homer the Loner”.

  I just want an advise because I’ve been separated from my wife for almost four years when she went abroad to work as an assistant manager in a fast food chain. We always argue because she’s a nagger wife. Until a time came, I got tired of communicating with her and blocked her on Facebook. It’s been quite a while when I heard that she just came home from Singapore and wants to meet me again and be reunited with our kids. Am quite nervous though it’s been a long time since I last saw my kids. And definitely they are quite “ilang” or hesitant to meet me. By the way, we got separated dahil sa pakikialam ng mother-in-law ko na gusto niyang siya ang mag manage sa amin ng mga kids which I don’t want to happen but it did with their connivance.

  I am currently studying and pursuing to finish college so that someday maipagmamalaki ko sa kids namin na nakapagtapos ako at ‘di ko sinayang ‘yung times na magkahiwalay kami ng mommy nila. I do not have a girl friend kasi ayaw ko din namang mahanapan nila ako ng butas para tuluyan na kaming maghiwalay. Still don’t know what will happen next because we will be meeting on Monday.

  Honestly, there is still bitterness in me with this meeting up with her dahil sa paglaglag niya sa akin sa ere at pagbaliwala niya sa akin ng mahabang panahon. Sabi ko nga para sa mga bata na lang kaya ako makikipag meet sa kanya. What advise can you give me?

   

  Hi, Homer the loner! Pride has gotten in the way of your marriage.

  Your wife wants to see you and reunite with the kids because of two things:

  1.She wants to find out if things can be repaired between you and her. Probably thinking of fixing things.

  2.Or will make separation official.

  If you cannot be a husband anymore, please know that you can never change the fact that you’re a father to your kids. Not having a girl friend is something not everyone can do and that’s really so nice of you. It means you are aware you’re not ready to commit and therefore don’t want any complications.

  Your kids are your kids. Kahit mailang ka you will find a way to be able to communicate with them the way a father would. And do not lose that connection with your kids. There are good fathers I know of, even if they’re not on good terms with the mother of their kids, at least, be a good dad. If you can’t love their mom, at least, respect her.  Try to avoid arguments with your wife in front of your kids. It’s Christmas. At least, spare the season and the kids.

  Come in your best outfit, dress accordingly, smell good, and MAKE SURE THAT YOU FOOT THE BILL incase kakain kayo sa labas. And wear your best smile for a moment. Let bygones be bygones.

  I will not touch the issue with your nagging wife and conniving with your mother-in-law for now. Our concern is for you to face them as confident as you can this coming Monday. And most of all, pray that God will guard your heart and your lips. May only words that heal should come out of it.

  Sincerely,

  Chloe

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