Trust Your Instincts

December 18, 2015

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  Hi Miss Chloe,

  I would like to thank you first dahil sa mga advice and inspirations that you have shared with your avid listeners. I have been planning to ask advice from here. Hesitant lang ako before but now hindi ko na kaya just to keep it to myself. The issue here is about me, my bf and my best friend. Going back, I introduce my boy friend and my friend thru Facebook without my knowledge then they started to talk constantly. Nalaman ko ‘yun dahil mismo ang friend ko ang nagsasabi sa akin. I got jealous nu’ng nalaman ko ‘yun. Kinausap ko sila pareho kung talagang gusto nila ang isa’t-isa. I’m willing to give pero I’m out of the picture anymore. Pinili ako ng boy friend ko over her. My friend deactivated her Facebook account after that incident. ‘Di ko alam kung bakit. Ngayon eto na naman ang friend ko, she activated her account. She admitted it to me that she messaged my boyfriend first and greeted him. They even exchanged greetings, ‘yan ang inamin nila sa akin. So I let them know how I felt about those gestures. ‘Di ako comfortable. Dahil for me I was betrayed before tapos ito na naman. They told me that they didn’t talk at all after that short greeting. I’m glad that after telling my feelings to my boyfriend he unfriended her sa list niya. But I felt something strange now, there is something that I need to know. Paranoid lang ba ako, DJ Chloe, every time makikita kong online and friend ko at boyfriend ko? Nagkakasabay pa sila mag online at offline? ‘Di lang ‘to once nangyayari. Siguro masyado ko lang ina-analize ang situation. I wanted to trust them fully but my instinct is telling me something. Thank you in advance for the advice to you and to your listeners.

  Miss Aye

   

  Dear Miss Aye,

  Ang best friend mo walang delikadesa. Okay, granting na friends lang sila. But my dear, all of the signs are clear. In fact, you saw the signs yourself. Iba talaga ang kutob or women’s intuition, it’s a gift. Okay, if they are only “friends“ what is that that they are talking about? That which they can’t include you? Hello, pwedeng gumawa ng group sa Facebook. Eh ‘di trio kayong nagcha-chat. Tsaka susmaryosep, this best friend of yours, she already knows she is hurting you and you don’t like it that she is talking to your man. Cant she give herself boundaries? She can find someone else she can talk to other than your boyfriend knowing na you don’t like the idea, right? The problem here is parehas matimbang sa’yo ang dalawa as you’ve said in our chat conversation, mahal na mahal mo ang boy friend mo. Eh, ikaw mahal na mahal ka rin ba niya? Ang lalaki kapag sinabihan mo na kung ano ang ayaw mo, mabilis pa sa alas kuwatro na susunod ‘yan sa’yo kung mahal ka talaga. Isa lang gauge ko sa lalaki kapag seryoso at talagang totoo, sunod-sunuran ‘yan sa’yo. Eto na lang, why unfriend each other sa Facebook kung wala kayong dapat na ika-guilty pareho? You can say, man, come on!! We’re just friends! I don’t know about you, but my instinct is telling me that something is very wrong. Walk away from both. Uulitin ko, ang best friend mo walang delikadesa. Kung mahal ka talaga ng boyfriend mo he will go after you. Don’t be afraid to drop them both like a hot potato. You don’t need people you can’t trust in your life. Daming tao sa mundo, te.

  Sincerely,

  Chloe

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