When Choosing A Partner

January 12, 2016

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  Dear DJ Chloe,

  Three yrs na po akong kasal at ganun din po katagal ang pakikisama ko sa mga biyanan ko. Isang bagay na hindi ko po talaga pinangarap sa buhay ko kapag po nag-asawa ako but it happened. Pinagtatalunan din po namin mag-asawa ang bagay na ito. Hindi pa daw po niya kaya dahil madami daw po siyang kailangan pang bayaran na utang. Gusto ko din po magtrabaho para makatulong sa kanya pero ayaw din po niya ako payagan dahil wala daw po mag-aalaga sa anak namin. Kahit meron naman pong pwede. Napapaisip po tuloy ako kung talaga po bang may pangarap siya para sa aming mag-ina. Nawawalan po ako ng peace of mind. Kung ano-ano na po naiisip ko. Pakiramdam ko po kung hindi ako kikilos wala pong mangyayari sa buhay namin. Marami po akong pangarap para pamilya ko pero parang may pumipigil po para gawin ko ‘yun. Sana po matulungan niyo ako, Dj Chloe. Anu po ba dapat gawin? Thanks a lot.

  Miss Aquarius

  Dear Miss Aquarius,

  You know, Miss Aquarius, I think you’re just exhausted sa pakikisama mo sa mga in-laws mo because as you’ve said, you are with them. This is the result of not planning, thinking, and deciding on certain things before plunging into marriage. May I also ask, where did all the debts come from? Baka naman sa pagpapakasal niyo or panganganak mo?

  I have also experienced this, living with in-laws. And honestly, it’s hard. You will learn to eat food or ulam na hindi mo kinakain. You have to be up early, you can’t oversleep. Nakakahiya, palaging may masasabi.

  I think for now, try to be contented muna with what you are into and what you have because your husband still doesn’t have the capacity to give you what you want. And seriously, bihira naman ang ganyang tulungan talaga. Maybe your husband wants you to take care of your kid muna. So if I were you enjoy your child, he or she will grow up and eventually, you can manage working. ‘Wag mo na lang munang sundan para makabwelo ka.

  Oftentimes we think we are the most miserable. But come to think of it, you still have a roof on your head, food on the table, a husband who works for you, not you working for your husband. Learn to be contented, ma’am. This situation is telling or teaching you something. Ask for the Lord’s guidance so that you may know what He is trying to tell you. Baka gusto Niyang alagaan mo muna anak mo.

  You seem to have big dreams, sana ‘di ka na muna nag-asawa.
  For now, since you’re married, you now have to deal with the consequences of whom you have chosen. I say make the most out of it. Find a way to make it work and be submissive if you need to. Marriage is a team effort, don’t forget that.

  Sincerely,
  Chloe 

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