The First One

January 28, 2016

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  Hi DJ Chloe!

  Hihingi lang po ako ng advice regarding sa status ko ngayon. I’m married pero hindi na kami ng asawa ko. Magkasama pa kami sa isang bahay pero wala na kaming pkialamanan sa isa’t isa. May kanya-kanya na kaming buhay at ginagawa. Hindi pa lang ako nakabukod agad kasi hindi pa naman ako financially stable. Pero nagdecide na ‘ko na this end of January I will stand on my own. I have three kids, dalawa sa kanila maliit pa kaya medyo hirap din ako magdesisyon. Pero hindi na namin mahal ang isa’t isa. Nagkar’on na rin kami ng kanya-kanyang karelasyon noon. At kahit nagkabalika kami hindi naman nagwork at hindi na kami masaya. Gusto ko lang humingi ng advice kung tama ba na tuluyang umalis na ‘ko dito with my kids. O magstay na wala namang nangyayari. Panay sumbatan lang din naman. Nahihirapan na din naman ako dahil panay din ang tanong niya kung kailan kami aalis. Please hide my identity na lang po. Thank you and God bless.

  Miss S

  You know what, Miss S, my mom told me before na ang future ng isang pamilya ang ikagaganda nito at ikabubuo ay nasa babae. And I really believe that. I am alone because I have chosen to be alone; simply because I am not an enduring person. I can endure the challenges of being a single mother but not of a wife. Hehehe. I do not have that gift. :)

  Being alone is not a bad thing lalo na kapag kaya mo naman. You are still with your husband and the way I see it you are still both trying dahil “nagsusumbatan” pa kayo.

  You know one thing I have learned in this life, whether it’s relationship or work related or marriage, for a union or a team to thrive you should learn how to respond INTELLIGENTLY OVER UNINTELLIGENT TREATMENTS. Pag-aralan mo ‘yan. And things will change dramatically.

  You have three kids, you gave him three kids. Give it one last shot. Pray for your marriage, pray for your husband and pray for your yourself that you’ll be able to ENDURE. Because for a marriage to work you need ENDURANCE. I believe you can still turn things around if you put your heart in it. Sayang naman, maganda pa rin ang tumatandang may taga hilot ng paa mo pag masakit na rayuma mo. Why not invite your husband over dinner, you know, talk about the kids, about your relationship. Sa public resto kayo–one with a good ambiance para mahiya kayong magsumbatan. :) And who knows, baka di kayo umuwi sa bahay, you can book a hotel room.

  Sincerely,

  Chloe

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