What Is Meant For You

February 2, 2016

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  Dear DJ Chloe,

   

  I am a single mom with a 4 month-old baby. My story is until now I can’t get over with my EX (which happened to be the father of my kid). We had our almost 4 years of roller coaster ride relationship, until I found out na may iba pa pala bukod sa akin during that time. He’s annulled with 3 kids, and another kid from his live-in partner na wife na niya ngayon.

   

  Yeah, pang-lima na niya ‘yung baby ko. We ended up last year nu’ng paalis na ‘ko from abroad, apparently, umuwi ako agad kasi preggy na pala ako noon. He’s the only guy that I love. Kaya lang, higit kong nakita ang kaniyang tunay na kulay nu’ng buntis na ‘ko. Maraming masasakit na salita ang nakuha ko sa kaniya and worst, wala siyang pakialam sa anak ko, anak namin. Sadya pala talagang may ganu’ng tao ‘no? I felt all the hardships and burdens in life, nagsisisi ako bakit pa kami nagkakilala. Pero pag nakikita ko ang anak ko nawawala lahat ng pagsisising ‘yun. Masaya na siya sa buhay niya and almost complete. While me, ito dala pa rin ang pasakit ng damdamin ng mga alaala niya na pilit kong kinakalimutan pero lagi namang nasa isip ko.

   

  Vanity

   

  Dear Vanity,

   

  4 months old pa lang ang baby mo which only means na kailan lang ang relasyon niyo. 4 years of roller coaster ride relationship? ‘DI KA PA BA NAHIHILO?

   

  Oprah said, never end up with a man who has a bunch of kids with different women. He left the others and he made them pregnant and left them. Isn’t that enough for you to know that a man like this will make you miserable for the rest of your life?

  I believe there are still great men in this country. Or maybe not in this country but who knows nasa ibang lugar ang para sa’yo.

  Give yourself time to heal and to move on. It will take time lalo’t may remembrance pa sa’yo. This is the best time to reflect on your own future with your child. Malayo pa byahe mo at ba-byahe kang mag-isa dahil single mom ka. If I were you, start fixing your life and start by making good decisions. Like being alone for now focusing on your child. Being physically strong to take on new jobs or a new career because you will need to feed your child. This is not the best time for any drama. May anak ka na. Hindi ka p’wedeng maloka or magloka-lokahan dahil MAY ANAK KA NA.

   

  Sincerely,

  Chloe

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