Moving On Is Hard To Do When You Still Have Feelings For Her

February 11, 2016

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  Hi DJ Chloe,

  Itago niyo na lang po ako sa pangalang Ed.

  Hihingi lang po ako ng advice. Kasi DJ Chloe, may ex ako. Naghiwalay kami mga 10 months na siguro ang nakakalipas. Tapos nagkita kami pero parang walang pinagbago. Ganoon pa din kami sa isa’t-isa. Masaya pa din kami. Ang kaso may girlfriend na siya na isang lesbian. Then one time may nangyari po samin. ‘Di lang po once but twice and I’m still in love with her kahit na alam kong kasalanan ‘yun. Then one time po magkikita kami. Ang tagal ko siyang hinintay sa meeting place namin. Then nagulat ako, DJ Chloe kasama niya ‘yung girlfriend niya. Totoo, nainis ako ng sobrang inis. Pero ‘di ko na lang pinakita sa kanila. Ang tagal kong naghintay tapos ganoon? Then sabi ko may pupuntahan pa ‘ko kaya umalis na lang ako. Nasasaktan ako tuwing nakikita ko ang posts niya sa Facebook kasama ang girlfriend niya. Tapos nagulat ako na blocked na ‘ko sa Facebook niya. Then one day nagchat siya sa’kin, hindi daw siya ang nagblock sa’kin kundi ‘yung girlfriend niya. Tapos nagsend siya ng friend request sa’kin. Tapos nu’ng gabi nagpost sa wall ko ang girlfriend niya at sabi tigilan ko na daw ang girlfriend (who is my ex) niya. Nainis ako, DJ Chloe, minessage ko siya, sabi ko, “oo, tinigilan ko na ang girlfriend mo baka may mangyari pa ulit sa’min eh. Nakakahiya naman sa’yo.”

  What should I do, DJ Chloe? Ang hirap niya kasing kalimutan. Madaming masasayang memories ang iniwan niya sa’kin. Sana mabasa ‘tong message ko. Ang hirap magmove on sa kan’ya. Kahit ang tagal na namin magkahiwalay. More power, DJ Chloe! Thanks!

  Dear Ed,

  Sumama siya sa’yo and you guys went out like you’re still lovers. So that would mean she still loves you. At least that’s how I interpret her actions.

  Problem is she is committed with someone now and it’s not an ordinary kind of relationship. She is in a same sex relationship. So babae ang kalaban mo. And from what I know, people who are in same sex relationship ay parehong bisexual. (please anyone correct me if I’m wrong).

  You can do two things:

  1. Respect her relationship whatever it is right now and with whoever. Because you had your time and wait until she’s free. Literally free.

  2. Or fight for her. Fight for your love.

  I don’t have anything against same sex relationships but I still believe that a woman is for a man and a man is for a woman. Now just in case you win her back wala sanang sumbatan knowing that you are aware na she had a relationship with another woman. Baka mamaya ‘yun ang maging issue sa inyo eventually. Tanong ko lang, mahal mo pala, bakit mo pinakawalan? Don’t let go of anyone, especially if you won’t ever be ready to see her or him with someone else.

  Sincerely,

  Chloe

   

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