You Want It Too, Admit It

April 19, 2016

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  Hi DJ Chloe,

  It’s me Ms. 08 again. I just want some pieces of your advice and from other’s point of view. If you were in my shoes, what will you do when your ex is trying to keep the communication line open? Kasi last year, last July 2015, he already told me things na ayaw mong marinig especially sa taong mahal mo. But I moved on at unti-unti kong tinanggap (that’s what I thought). Then eto na to help me really keep going. I decided na i-block siya and changed my cellphone number para wala na talaga. And then last December, since it will be a new year, in-unblock for the reason na ayoko namang mag New Year na dala-dala pa ung bitter memories. I thought hanggang dun na lang ‘yun. Ayun, nagchat kami and it started there. Pero unlike before, hinintay ko siya ang unang magmessage or tumawag at magtext. Once in a while ginagawa niya. Then every 8th of the month tumatawag or nagte-text siya. I assume na may girlfriend na siya, na iba na ang mahal niya. But it came to a point na napagod na rin ako. He said na walang naging sila at hindi sila. Honestly, it gave me a little hope na baka gusto pa niyang ayusin ‘yung sa’min or some kind of closure. Until napansin ko na sa sarili ko na hinihintay ko na siyang magtext or kumontact (assuming). Lalo na nu’ng naging same network kami. Pero at the end of the day, wala pa din pala. Everything is all about circumstances. Umasa lang sa wala. Nahila ako pabalik sa wala. Feeling ko naiwan ako sa ere. Tinanong ko naman siya kung ano mga intentions niya. Wala siya ni isang salita. It’s clear din sa kanya na we can never be friends. Alam niya ‘yan. I also told him na kung may sasabihin siya, sabihin niya na para matigil na ‘yung kalokohang ‘to.

  And right now, sa nangyari, mas gusto ko na lang ‘yung confrontation. I guess it’s the best thing for both of us but still bakit ganun siya? For you, why he wanted to keep the communication open? As of now, one week na naman kaming walang communication I don’t know if it’s for good or until when. Ang hirap lang. I really don’t know kung san ako lulugar. HELP! :(

  Ms. 08

  Alam mo, Ms. 08, kaya mo siya in-unblock dahil you were “hoping” na magkaroon kayo ng some kind of contact. Kasi makikita ka niya sa news feed niya, ‘di ba? Don’t fool me nor yourself into saying na kaya mo in-unblock dahil ayaw mo, dahil gusto mo clean slate ang coming year. Kung talagang wala na siya sa’yo. Wala kang mararamdaman kahit pa minessage ka niya or tinext or whatever nu’ng nagstart siyang magcommunicate sa’yo. Kung tinuloy-tuloy mo na sana ang pagpili sa pagmo-move on mo, eh ‘di hindi ka sana na siopao ngayon? Binobola-bola ka kaya, asadong-asado ka na naman ngayon. Once and for all I’l say this again, if a man loves you or wants you back, you will know! If not, you will be confused. Confused ka, ‘di ba? So alam mo na ano sagot? The best thing to do? Pabayaan mo na siya nang hayaan ka na rin niya. He sees and he knows and you make him feel he can come back to you anytime. Ginagawa ka niyang reserba. So it’s up to you if papayag kang spare tire ka or ikaw ‘yung pinakagulong, lalagyan niya pa ng maganda at mamahaling mags or okay na sa’yo ang rim lang ? Sabagay uso ang naka rim lang ngayon. Simply put, we teach men how to treat us. How do you want to be treated ba? Like this? Confused?

  Sincerely,
  Chloe

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