Where Is Your Heart?

May 13, 2016

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  Hi DJ Chloe,

  I’ve been an avid listener of you since I was in college. I now reside in the US but still actively listen to you, your advices and to my beloved radio station.

  So, I met this guy at Tinder. Yes, of all places at Tinder. We met and honestly, it wasn’t anything I’d expect. Probably at the back of my mind I know that no one will take someone serious at Tinder. But I was wrong, he was special, DJ Chloe. He is a Mexican so our cultures are slightly different. He courted me the traditional Filipino way. At first, I was mean to him, ‘yung tipong pacute lang naman. But nu’ng tumagal naging kami din. I used to ask probably too much questions about his ex. He’d answer it but at the same time he’d tell me politely not to ask anymore since it was already in the past.

  We actually had this one fight which made him think again if he was really over his ex. He told me he thinks he still have feelings. I was crushed but I told him that we should try to see if what he feels is true. One night, he told me he didn’t love her anymore and it was just the memories he remembered because I kept on bringing up the subject. After that everything was okay. Like in all relationships, sometimes we have arguments. One day, he went to West Covina to spend time with his mom. After that, something changed. And I was just denying it to myself. I found out that he saw his ex. He told me he didn’t feel anything and I believed him. There was this week when we would argue about it but we’re trying to make up. That was the week when he also broke up with me. He told me that he felt like he wasn’t ready for a relationship. That a part of him was still hurting from his past and we kind of live far away from each other. I had no choice but to let him go. I didn’t want to. But I know that if we’d continue while he’s still hurting no good will come out of it. I asked him to cut everything’s that connecting us. He didn’t want to. He asked me to be friends. And because I do not want to lose him, I agreed. I do believe his ex doesn’t want him back. But I do know he’s still hurting of what a fool he was with her. I was broken and sad. I didn’t know what to do. Whenever we’d talk it breaks my heart at the same time it makes me happy. I once asked him if it was too late for us to start again, he said it’s not but he has to fix himself first. I’m confused, DJ Chloe. I still love him and I feel he still loves me too. When he saw me, he was sweet and all. Will this friendship with him bring us back together? I don’t want him to get used to us just being “friends”. Thank you, DJ Chloe.

   

  Hi. You can meet people on Facebook, Twitter , and anywhere online or even meet someone personally and they turn out to be a complete a*****e. Personally, I think, okay na sana. You screwed it up when you were asking too much about the ex. You were not able to handle your insecurity. I can understand you running away if you were getting too much information from him of the ex. ‘Yung tipong he would always find a way to include the ex in the conversation. ‘Yun, men like those haven’t moved on yet and you have to stay away because you’ll end up being a rebound. But the probing came from you. Sana instead of you asking about the ex eh ang ginawa mo na lang, sobrang pinasaya mo si kuya sa presence at sa love that you have for him. Sabi nga daw your thoughts become reality. So maybe you kept inviting the thought of him still in love with the ex or maybe he was still. Anyways, I’m not sure if being friends with him can lead him back to you. Maybe yes, maybe no. Ask yourself muna if all his roads will lead him back to you. Will you open the door fully for him? Or drive him away to his ex, again?

  Sincerely,

  Chloe

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