Move Forward, Girl!

June 13, 2016

• 

  Dear DJ Chloe,

  Just call me Grace, 18 years old. I just want to share my story.

  I have a boyfriend po. Nanligaw siya from 1st year high school hanggang 4th year high school. Sinagot ko po siya after graduation last year ng March. Nu’ng una po super saya ng relationship namin, we would

  even have sex sometimes after school. I know hindi tama na may mangyari because we’re too young. Pero nagstart po ‘yun nu’ng first kiss namin then tuloy-tuloy na. Nu’ng 1st year anniversary na po namin parang I feel na nanlalamig na siya kasi hindi man lang po niya naalala ‘yun then ako pa ang unang naggreet sa kanya. Sabi ko po it’s okay. Bawi na lang tayo next time. Hanggang sa dumating po ‘yung time na may nagchat sa kanya na super gandang girl na kapit bahay nila. ‘Di ko po pinansin kasi I know na hindi niya gagawing patulan ‘yung girl. At lagi niyang sinasabi na ako lang ang mahal niya. One day, nagcheck siya ng account ko sa Facebook then nakita niya po na nag-unblock ako ng mga boys na classmate ko  (na wala naman pong malisya na i-add ko ‘yung mga ‘yun). Then bigla na siyang nakipaghiwalay. Ang sakit po kasi may mga girls naman pong ayaw ko din sa account niya pero ayaw niya i-unfriend. Until now hindi po kami nag-uusap. He even blocked me on Facebook and Instagram. Feeling ko po kinuha niya lang ‘yung virginity ko at wala na siyang pake.
  DJ Chloe, what should I do? Please help me.

  (Please hide my identity po. Sana matulungan nyo ko)

   

  Hi Grace,

  Boys, yes, boys! At this age, teens, even early 20s to late 20s, you can’t expect any maturity yet from them. Minsan nga 50 na wala pang maturity. Boys your age are all about adventures and exploring girls.

  ‘Yung kunyari nakita niya may mga boys kang friends bigla sa Facebook, he made use of it as an opportunity to leave you. Making you feel like it’s your fault that’s why he left. Kasi  “may kaibigan kang boys” sa Facebook na biglaan naging mga kiabigan mo.

  You know that happens too kahit sa mga matured na. Minsan may mga lalaking naghahanap ng good exit para makalabas sa isang relasyon na feeling nila is not serving them well anymore or nata-trap sila.

  You’re only 18 and you have a long way to go. Hindi ka pinag-aaral ng parents mo para makipag boyfriend, anak. They are doing everything they can so you can finish school and have a chance in life.   Please, appreciate that and return the big favor by being in school and finishing it.

  Wala na tayong magagawa sa virginity mo if you feel that way. But don’t ever think that you’re worth as a woman is as intact as your virginity. It is important, however, but it’s not all that matters.  A man destined for you will love you and accept you whether you’re a virgin or not. Pero ‘di ko naman sinasabi sa’yo na okay na, wala na, kaya sige lang. No, not that. What I am telling you is it’s done and over with. Move on from it and stop sleeping around. Matuto ka na sa nangyari sa’yo.

  

• COMMENTS