Love Expects Nothing In Return

July 19, 2016

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  Hello DJ Chloe,

  Please hide my identity. Tawagin mo na lang po ako sa name na Neo. In a relation po ako (LDR) now for almost three years.  I had a wife and kids but my wife and I got separated. Pero kakit hiwalay na kami ay ‘di ko kinakalimutan ‘yung responsibilidad ko sa mga anak ko bilang ama. I love my kids, DJ Chloe kahit naging ganon ‘yung nangyari. Back to my problem ngayon , I’m in an LDR now but before nagsama kmi sa Pilipinas for almost six  months then she went abroad (sorry I forgot to tell you, wala na ko sa Pilipinas ngayon, I’m working abroad). Two years ang contract niya pero tapos na. Nasa Pinas na siya ngayon. 2012 when our long distance relationship started.

  It’s my first time na maka-experience ng ganoon. First months and onwards until 2012 ended, okay kami. ‘Yung communication namin halos stable (skype, Yahoo messenger, and calls ) na by that time nag-effort ako pra maging mas stable ‘yung communication namin and I succeeded, DJ Chloe. Then came 2013 na prang sinusubok kami lalo na siya. Mas matanda nga pala ako ng 5 years sa kanya. Nakaramdam ako ng doubt. The feeling that “there something wrong ata ah” . Then April to September na-cut ang communication namin. I don’t know why or what was going on. Those months were really stressful to me. Grabe ‘yung pinagdaanan ko in my job, my career, and everything. Meaning, I’ve lost them.

  I know, DJ Chloe prang hard to believe but it happened. Kaya nga ako nagplan magwork abroad dahil failed ako sa aspetong ‘yan. Haaaay, mahaba pa ‘to but I’ll try to make it short. The bottom line is I’ve been faithful to her and I really love her even though I know the truth about her. She revealed everything to me noong nag-usap na kmi at noong time na andito na ‘ko sa abroad. Naluha na lang ako DJ Chloe. Kasi  na-prove ko ‘yung analysis ko at observation ko noon at ‘yung mga tanong and everything. Ang sakit sobra. Ang sakit ng ginawa niya. Kaya I told her “for all the things I made, sacrifices, and being faithful ito ‘yung isusukli mo sa akin.” I know nasumbatan ko siya which is wrong but I think it’s my right kasi I have done nothing wrong. Kung pwede ko lang idetalye lahat pero ang haba eh.

  She had an affair with someone else dahil compromise ‘yung situation nya. It’s hard to tell DJ Chloe but after we talked she told me she still loves me. Naluha ako because in my heart I really love her but in my mind may struggle na. That’s all. Please give me some advice DJ Chloe, I really don’t know what to do.

  Neo

  Hi Neo,

  You love her so much but loving her is hurting you too, right? And you just can’t ignore what she did–the affair she had, right?

  You know, when we love, there is no guarantee that we will also be loved in the same way we love the person. There is no guarantee that if we are loyal and faithful, the other person will also return the favor by being loyal and true. Nagkataon mas malakas ka, mahina siya.

  I can’t fully give an opinion because there are a lot of blind spots sa k’wento mo. At ikaw lang ang nakaka alam na noon.

  I can only tell you this, hold on until you can and you feel that you still have to hold on. But if the struggle and the battle in your head is stronger that the love you feel in your heart, then just let go.

  Mas masarap kasing magmahal ng buo ang tiwala at walang halong pagdududa. You can’t trust if you don’t love enough. And you can’t love if you don’t trust enough.

  

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