Family Matters In Building Who You Are

July 21, 2016

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  Hi DJ Chloe,

  Good day po! I am a fan of your Chloe’s Inbox and this time I would like to know kung ano po ang gagawin niyo o mararamdaman nyio if you guys experience like this. I am sharing this with you because I feel like I’m losing my mind thinking about this alone.

  What if your parents got separated when you were 1 1/2 years old? Your mother got married to another man and so with your father with another woman? You grew up without their support and you became independent at a young age? Your mother got separated with her husband and has one child? Now, your mother is having an affair with another married man but she says that there is no love, pera lang ang habol niya sa lalaki dahil mayaman ito.

  After 19 years, your parents met again and decided to be with each other again so your father decided to leave his current wife and 3 kids, to whom he is now married. He left them for my mother so they can be together again. And now, your parents are back to their normal lives and relationship and tries to continue and fix their broken relationship without considering the broken people like me their own child and the other kids from the other people they have been with. And what if your father stays in your house and pretends as one of your relative to your neighbors. And your mother introduces him as her cousin but the worst thing is they act more than lovers and acts as if they’re 16? And you feel you are living in a fake fairy tale? And you did your part of talking to them but they are not listening but rather they get mad at you?

  What if you are living this kind of life? Would you be happy? Will you accept this kind of living? Will you not get mad at your parents for repeating the history? What will you do if you guys are in this situation, will you get mad at your parents? What if it is against your will, beliefs, values and perception, will you still respect your parents because they are your parents? And last, how will you treat your parents? Hope to hear your response very soon. God bless.

  Anne

  Hi, Anne!

  I am so sorry about your situation, that’s the sad fact of life, we can’t choose our parents and they can’t also choose their kids.

  Napakacrucial ng pamilya sa isang tao, sa kanyang pagkatao. In fact, we get to learn everything in life at home and our parents being our first teachers.

  I can really feel all your sentiments. My parents may not be perfect but I am proud of who and what I have become because I have parents who never gave up on me. And that’s the word, never give up. And I think you too should not give up on your parents.

  You are in this world because of them and if they failed in giving you a normal life, well my dear, you can very well turn things around and use this to your advantage. Be the best version of yourself, give yourself a future.

  You know how it is to grow up in a dysfunctional family. So if time comes ikaw naman magpapamilya, malalaman mo kung paano dapat gawin para buo kayo. Pero dun mo rin malalaman na minsan kahit anong pilit mo, mahirap din kung ikaw lang ang nagpupumilit na buo kayo. At ang maiiwan ay ikaw pa rin.

  Strive to have a good relationship with your own self. It doesn’t matter where and who you came from. What matters is who you are in the eyes of God.

  Everything in this world is temporary but your identity in Christ is what will matter in the end and all of us will face the end.

  

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