Balance Career And Family

July 29, 2016

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  Dear DJ Chloe,

  Good day, DJ!

  I need your advice. I’m 35 years old, working mom of 6 and 2 year-old kids. My husband got a stable job din po. Lately nawalan po kami ng yaya, so ako and Hubby ang nagsasalitan ng absent sa office. Nakaka-aburido po talaga ang walang magyaya at hirap na maghanap ng kasambahay. Ang problema, parang gusto ko na mag-quit sa trabaho at maging full time mom. Pinagusapan naman namin ni Mister at okay naman po sa kanya. But of course, magkakaroon talaga ng adjustment financially. I’ve been seeking advice and opinion din sa mga close friends. Some say wag mag-quit dahil iba pa rin daw ang may trabaho at sariling pera sa hirap ng buhay ngayon. Some say okay daw po. Kasi ang work, pwede ulit balikan. But ang paglaki ng bata, hindi na daw mababalikan. Please enlighten me. Part of me gusto magfull time mom, kasi pakiramdam ko need ako ng mga anak ko. Part of me says ‘wag, para din sa magandang buhay nila. Pagod na ako mag-isip at nalilito. First time ko sumulat, sana mabigyan mo ko ng advice. Dati ay taga basa lng ako ng mga letter ngyn ako na mismo ang sumusulat. Thanks and regards.

  Mommy J.

  Dear Mommy J,

  You know I have lived by this line “BEHIND EVERY GREAT CAREER WOMAN, IS A GREAT YAYA!” J And believe me, I have had my share of nightmares and stories of being at the mercy of yayas. You’re lucky to have a husband who shares the same burden with you.

  My dear, you are not the only one who is in this situation. So, don’t look at this as something hopeless. I have officemates who are just starting with their families and I can see them sometimes bringing their kids at the office. Lahat naman dumadaan dito eh.

  Your kids will grow eventually and the time will come that you won’t need house help anymore. Di ka naman mag-aabroad para mamiss-out mo ang childhood nila di ba? Tiyaga lang maghanap ng yaya and try your best na wag muna dagdagan ang mga anak, kasi mas lalo kang mahihirapan.

  It is important to still keep your job. Your husband maybe stable now, but we live in a crazy world where we don’t know what’s gonna happen next. Akala niyo lang kakayanin niyo, pero mararamdaman mo ‘yan kapag wala ka nang makukuhang sweldo at wala kang sariling pera. Napakahirap ng buhay ngayon, sister! Simple lang problema mo, ‘wag mong masyadong pabigatin.

  Sabi ko nga sayo di ba, if your husband can handle everything at ikaw eh talagang mag-aalaga na lang at pa-bake bake na lang sa bahay at di kayo kakapusin, meaning talagang bongga ang work at career ni Mister plus the benefits sa kumpanya, then you can resign. But if not, keep your job. Pag-aralan mo paano maging wonder woman. Nagawa ng lahat, magagawa mo rin!

  

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