Some People Are Not Meant To Stay

August 8, 2016

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  Dear DJ Chloe,

  I am a huge fan of yours and I hope you’re well and good habang binabasa mo ‘to. Just call me Dee. I just want to share something in the hopes that you can spare some wise words for me. I had a boyfriend for five years, DJ Chloe. It was my first relationship and it was really ideal.

  Though we’re both young when we started being together (15 and still studying), it wasn’t just that typical relationship ng mga teen. ‘Yun bang papasok lang sa isang relasyon just for the sake of experiencing it. In fact, sobrang close niya sa family ko. So close that my parents treat him as if he was really their son. Kahit mga relatives ko tanggap at mahal siya. Then came the time na nag-work na siya habang ako busy sa pagpe-prepare for the board exams. Dun na nagbago ang lahat. Kung dati sobrang thoughtful niya sa akin, ngayon ay halos umaabot ng ilang linggo bago siya mangumusta. Kung hindi pa ako maunang mag-reach out, he’d act as if wala man lang girlfriend na nag-aalala sa kanya. Napagod na po ako. I said I wanted to end it na, since over the years, napuno na rin po ako. Countless issues, sobrang lapitin niya ng ibang babae (and even gays!) and instead of acting to repel them, he seemed to be enjoying the attention pa. It’s like he doesn’t care at all kung nasasaktan na ako. He’s too immature din, bigla na lang magtatampo nang ‘di ko alam ang dahilan. Too controlling, kahit pananamit ko, ang daming bawal. Idagdag pa ‘yung nanay niya na sa dahilang ‘di ko mawari, ayaw sa akin para sa anak niya. At ito nga, lately, it’s very obvious that he already lost interest in me mula nga nang magkatrabaho siya. Even my family got really sad because of what happened. Siyempre lalo na ako, DJ Chloe. It’s like tinapon niya lang ‘yung five years. I mean, what did I ever do para balewalain ako nang ganun? The only thing I can think of as a reason is baka may ibang babae na siyang kinagigiliwan at work. Nakakalungkot lang kasi sa ganito kami natapos, DJ Chloe. I wanted to be over him na but, really, it’s not that easy. He was a big part of who I am today. Because of our relationship, I changed for the better…only to be dumped like this in the end.

  Sincerely,

  Dee

  Hi Dee!

  Your letter, though I feel the sadness and the pain, also bears and shows the strength of a fine young lady raised  with so much love by her parents. That I know you will find it in your heart to let go and forgive and accept and move on.

  I am sure that by now, you already know that after a heartbreak the only thing that’s constant in your life are your parents, ‘di ba?

  There is no use keeping up with him. If he wants to enjoy all the attention of all the girls, let him. If he wants to enjoy his life, allow him. Let go of him because you also need to enjoy your life and you have a long way to go and it’s unfair for you to be wasting your precious time on him, right?

  You’re very young and just about to see the world and you don’t look bad yourself. You can’t let him affect you all your life, right? And even if he was a big part of you today,  doesn’t mean he has to still be a big part of you tomorrow.

  People come in our lives and they become either a blessing or a lesson. His part in your life is over. Don’t beg for him to stay.

  

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