Women’s Intuition Is Real

August 22, 2016

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  Hello, DJ Chloe!

  Good day. Sana ma-ipost niyo ‘tong mesaage ko and give me some advice. Just call me Tricia. I’m 19 years old. May isang anak po and my hubby is a call-center agent. Sa MOA po ‘yung location nu’ng company niya. Nu’ng nagstart naman po siya dun okay naman po ako. Walang ibang feeling na napaparanoid or something. Then nu’ng nag panggabi na po siya nag-iba na ‘yung team niya parang may iba na po akong nararamdman. Wala naman pong patunay pero minsan bigla na lang po akong makakapag-isip ng hindi maganda. Although kilala ko naman po ‘yung mga ka-work n’ya ‘yung mga boys po nakapunta na dito sa bahay namin, nung birthday niya. Pero ‘yung mga babae hndi pa po.

  Nagkkwento lang siya sa’kin. Then nu’ng mga nakaraang buwan nagpaalam po siya na maggy-gym daw siya. Ako naman pumayag kasi kailangan niya rin naman po. Nu’ng mga lumipas na araw na lagi na po niya nak-kwento si M and si J. Okay naman po sakin nu’ng una. Then nitong isang araw lang may pictures sila na magkatabi sila ni M. I don’t know if she is single or what. I feel jealous. ‘Pag naggy-gym sila lagi na siya late nauwi. 5am uwian then gym 1 hour, 6am bale. Minsan po nakakauwi siya 9am or 9:30am na. I don’t know what to think po. Nalilito ako. Lagi din po silang magkatabi sa mga pictures na nakikita ko sa GC nila, then po ‘yung mga workmate niya na hindi niya friend sa FB. I don’t know why. Naiisip ko, baka ayaw niya makakita ako ng ebidensya? Nalilito po ako sana po matulungan niyo ako.

  More blessings to come.

  Thank you so much and will wait for your response.

  Hi Tricia!

  You are seriously too young for what you are into right now. Let me guess? Teenage pregnancy? If yes, then prepare yourself for more heart aches and hardships. You know why? Kasi hindi ka pa totally handa para sa ganito. Hindi ka pa equipped kumbaga. Well, no one really is equipped, that much. But if you have given it at least some time, you know… Enjoy muna ang kabataan mo, your youth, then problems like this can wait. But anyway, nandito na. So just face it head on.

  Your “hubby” is in a place I call “a  matrix of temptation.” Sorry for the word pero marami talagang tukso sa call center industry. Alam naman natin ang mga k’wentuhan about their culture ‘di ba? Actually kahit saan namang workplace, maraming “nagkakadevelopan”. Imagine, they spend how many hours together for how many days? At uuwi lang sa’yo para matulog. Kahit normal work hours ganun din, ‘di ba? More than 8 hours together. Sa asawa uuwi para matulog na lang ng magkatabi. Minsan ‘di na nga kayo nagkakausap.

  What you’re feeling or thinking is actually “intuition”. ‘Yan ay isang babala. At nararamadaman mo ‘yan to warn you of an imminent danger. Back when I was younger, I’ve had experiences like this but because of too much trust and love. I ignored intuitions I had so bigla na lang sumabog sa mukha ko ang mga masasakit na katotohanan. Namuhay ako sa “akala”. Akala ko kasi hindi niya kayang gawin. Akala ko kasi dahil may anak kami. You know, those things.

  So whatever needs saying, needs saying, Tricia. Kailangan mong i-verbalize sa kanya lahat ng mga tumatakbo sa utak mo. You don’t have to nag. Pero dapat may “diin”. And if he loves you and he is truly faithful/committed to you, he doesn’t have anything to worry, and he would gladly answer your query and would even be careful, and patient enough to remove those doubts.

  Also, if he doesn’t go out of his way to “introduce” you to his female friends, M and J, introduce yourself. Kung paano, hindi ko alam. But I am sure you can devise a way. Maraming babae na alam ng may asawa na eh gusto din maging pangalawang asawa or pangalawang girlfriend.

  Mahirap kasi  dahil sabi mo hindi kayo kasal. I have heard this line before “‘di naman kami kasal, so girlfriend ko pa lang siya kahit may anak na kami.” Masakit. But some men are that brutal to say that. Pero alam mo kahit kasal, ‘pag a**hole ang lalaki, magkakaproblema at magkakaproblema pa rin kayo. So nasa inyong dalawa ‘yan. Gaano ba kayo kadesidido sa bawat isa talaga?

  Sharon Stone once said, “women may be able to fake orgasms but men can fake a whole relationship.”

  Trust your gut feel, Tricia. What doesn’t feel right is definitely wrong.

  

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