You Just Gotta Be Real

October 3, 2016

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  Dear DJ Chloe,

  I’m an avid listener of this station. I’m writing to you beacause I want to share my relationship ngayon. My story goes like this. I’m Cory and I’m 24 yrs. old. I have a girlfriend. Yes, a girlfriend for over two years now. Straight naman po ako then I met her and exchanged text messages with her. Our relationship started in a text tapos kami na. My girlfriend and I have some issues with our families but me and my girlfriend agreed na we will have our own normal families. And still be best of friends. We’ve went through a lot since her last year in college. I did her thesis. I paid for her tuition and graduation fee. I helped her find a good job. I pay her apartment rent but not always. I give her budget whenever she’s short. I gave it all from my heart because I know that she needs it. And whenever na wla na siyang budget kahit na short na din ako I still give her kahit na wala na natitira sa’kin. Because I really love her so much. Kahit na nakakahiram ako sa iba basta may mabigay ako sa kanya. I’m always the one who pays for our dates. Pero kapag may sobra siya she insists to pay. But nahihiya ako dahil siya ang magbabayad. I don’t know why pero tuwing siya ang magbibigay or magbabayad ay nahihiya ako sa kanya. Na need ko siyang bayaran kapag nagkaroon ako. That is how we are. Lately, while we are talking she asked me something out of the blue. Na kung kailan daw kami magbo-boyfriend. Ako naman ay hindi makasagot ng maayos. And I just say na ‘wag muna ngayon. Siguro malapit na. ‘Yan mga sagot ko. Kasi kapag iniisip ko ‘yun ay sobrang nalulungkot ako na hind ko siya kayang mawala sa piling ko, na palagi ko siya nakikita at nakakasama, nahahatid at nasusundo sa work niya. Iniisip ko pa lang ay nasasaktan na ako ng sobra. I’m afraid na itatanong niya ulit ‘yan sa’kin. Pero I’m doing may part naman na mgkaroon ng boyfriend. Pero wala pa rin kasi talaga. Sinasabi ko naman sa kanya na “kapag nakahanap na ako ay magsasabi ako sa’yo at dapat ganun ka din.” ‘Yan ang sinasabi ko sa kanya. I just don’t know when kasi we are already 25. And both of us are eldest. Kaya ‘yung family namin ay nagmamadali na mag-asawa kami. And I don’t know when is that time, DJ Chloe. My question is when will be the time na masasabi ko na sa kanya kung kelan? Kahit na masasaktan ako ng sobra-sobra, I just want her to be happy and see her smile.

  Cory,

  Hindi ko rin alam, seriously.

  You, guys, are an item, right? That’s how I understood it. But it seems like she doesn’t know that you love her. That it’s the two of you. Kasi sabi mo girlfriend mo siya pero gusto daw niya or may question siya na kelan kayo magbo-boyfriend? So I am under the impression that what you have with her is not clear.

  Ano nga ba, Cory, ang meron kayo? Ikaw alam mo rin ba?

  In the normal set up, a boy is to a girl and a girl is to a boy. But things have changed now. Please, don’t get me wrong. I do not have anything against our LGBT brothers and sisters. I love them. In fact, I do have a lot of gay friends. Some are out and proud, some are still in the closet.

  I think and I believe you have to define first what she is to you and what you are to each other. And most of all, be true to yourself. Also, you can’t keep doing everything “para lang magkaboyfriend.” Things like this happen when it is time to happen. Is it really a boyfriend you want to have or a girlfriend?

  

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