All You Need to Know

November 24, 2015

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  Hi Dj Chloe!

  I have been reading your posts and the pieces of advice you have been giving to different kinds of people and I must say napapahanga mo po talaga ‘ko. This is also why I decided to ask for your two cents.

  I have been dating this guy for a year now and we made everything official last month lang. He is a responsible guy and he knows his priorities, mataas ‘yung mga pangarap n’ya and I feel glad na natutupad n’ya na ‘yung mga ‘yun. The thing is, he is not the type of guy na sweet sa mga salita. Ako kasi nasanay ako na showy ang family ko kahit sa words kaya minsan nafi-feel ko na parang ‘di n’ya naman ako love. I know it sounds shallow but after the things I have been through with my past relationships, there is always a part of me that is constantly asking for validation through words. Is it okay if I ask him to be more expressive in words?

  I don’t want him to think that I am being needy or anything kaya medyo hesitant ako. How can I say it without making him feel like I am trying to change the way he expresses his love? Thank you, DJ Chloe! More power and God bless you always!

  Ms. Dazed

  Hi Ms. Dazed,

  Some men are not really showy, some are not that expressive, and some are not good with words.  I do understand where you’re coming from. Tayo kasing mga babae ang favorite question natin is “MAHAL MO BA AKO?“ Women need to be assured all the time. Ewan ko ba. I don’t know the psyche regarding this kasi ako ganyan din. I know for a fact and I can see that the guy loves me but I want to hear it as well. All the time. J

  I believe words and actions are both needed to validate each other.

  Maybe what you can do is be the first to do it, be sweet with words. ‘Di na uso ngayon na galing pa or mauuna ang lalaki. Sanayin mo siya na sweet ka with words. Say “I love you” often and ask to be answered. Don’t ask him to be more expressive with words show him what it’s like to be expressive with words.

  Pero dapat hindi puro words lang ha. Back-to-back dapat ‘yan with action. Puro “I love you” nga eh pero halos wala namang oras sa’yo, walang effort. Kasi ang mga lalaki pag talagang their love is true isa lang ang makikita mo jan, “EFFORT”.  Otherwise, walang pakialam ‘yan sa’yo.

  So if he gives you time and shows effort, be happy. You just take care of the words and I’m sure if you tell him “I love you” he’ll say “I love you too”.

   

  Sincerely,

  Chloe

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