Damage Controlling

October 6, 2015

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  Dear Dj Chloe,

  I need a lot of opinion about my problem or should I really call this a problem? It’s between me and my cousin. 5 years ago, I have a cousin who is very close to me so close that we even sleep in one bed. Then one day he just said that he’s falling in love with me. I was really surprised because we’re cousins, first cousins. The day he confessed his feelings I stayed away from him but he kept on sending me text messages and apologizing for what happened. But I didn’t really talk to him. After three years, we saw each other again in our province for a family reunion. We’re both in a relationship. All along, I thought everything’s okay and he forgot his feelings toward me. I told him, directly, that his feelings towards me is not okay because we’re cousins and whatever happens it just can’t be. Another year passed and now I’m happily married but just last week I received a text message asking how am I. I replied, “I’m fine. Who’s this?” I received a call and was shocked that it’s my weird cousin. I was just casual as if nothing happened. However, he opened the same thing again. He knows that I already have a husband but kept on saying that his feelings towards me is not changing. He has no partner until now and I always pray that he’ll do so that he’ll stop. I don’t want to be rude to him just for him to stay away. He’s one of my favorite cousins. But why is he like that? Are there any situations similar with us? Please help me so I can help him also.

  Mrs. Different

  Dear Mrs. Different,
  
  Since you’re already married why not let your husband know about it? Baka kasi malaman niya pa sa ibang paraan o sa ibang tao pag-isipan ka pa ng masama. But you know him better, so you would know if it’s best to let him know so you won’t be thinking about this problem alone. Maybe don’t tell him na lang na magkatabi pa kayong natutulog noon baka iba isipin niya. Anyways, if your conscience naman is clear then you have nothing to fear.
  Your husband can talk to your cousin about this and let your cousin know that if he doesn’t stop messing with you then he’ll mess up with your husband too.
  You can ignore for as long as you like but he can also bother you for as long as he likes. So I believe it’s best for your husband to intervene. Baka pag malala na tsaka niya pa malaman sa’yo naman magalit naman asawa mo. Dalawa na problema mo, your husband and your first cousin. You know what I mean? Try mo pa trim your hair baka sakali mabawasan ang long hair problems mo.

  Good luck,

  Chloe

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