For Dad

December 3, 2015

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  Dear Dj Chloe,

  Second time ko po na lumapit sa inyo. I’m a single mom, iniwan ng boyfriend who happens to have a family. Three months na po baby girl ko at ngtatrabaho na ‘ko ulit para buhayin siya. Dj, wala po akong mapakiusapan na magbantay ng anak ko, ang hirap maghanap ng yaya. ‘Yung sister ko po na nag-aalaga sa kaniya ngayon ay uuwi na ng province kasi may mga anak din po siya. Sabi po niya, dalhin niya na lang sa province ang anak ko at suportahan ko na lang pati ‘yung sahod ay ipadala ko na lang. Ang sakit po isipin na malalayo ako sa baby ko. Wala na nga siyang ama lalaki pang malayo sa akin. Pero nagigipit po ako dahil kung walang mag-aalga ng anak ko ay pa’no ko siya susuportahan. Ano po ba opinion mo about this? Naguguluhan po ako kasi ayokong malayo sa’kin ang anak ko. Pagpayuhan po sana ninyo ako. Thank you po.

  Zelle

  Dear Zelle,

  You’re right, mahirap ang mapalayo sa anak. But you’re not alone in this kind of situation. I know a lot of single moms like you who were able to get through all the hardships of raising their kids alone. Myself included. I am just very lucky to have a family that became my super strong support system–my mom and my sister who were there when I was away working for my kids.

  You need to find a support system, your sister is there already. That’s good. How about your mom? Parents? Why not think of going home in the province as well. Mas controlled ang environment doon compared dito sa Manila. I am sure you will also be able to find a job there. ‘Wag ka lang maging mapili sa trabaho.

  Zelle, isa pa lang ‘yan pero hirap ka na ‘di ba? Can you imagine pag naulit pa ‘yan? Please be wise next time, okay?  Women, mothers, we can’t normally just abandon our kids. But men? Most of them they can have a good night sleep and not even be bothered by the kids they made with different mothers. That’s the truth. Kung nakakapag-aral ba, may gatas ba, may diaper ba? Most men don’t bother themselves with things like these. Meron namang iba, pero 99.9 % walang pakialam. Minsan nga lehitimong mga anak na napapabayaan pa.

  So if I were you, try to stay in the province and find a job there. Pray for your situation all the time. God knows what the single mom is going through and His provision is always right on time.

  Sincerely,

  Chloe

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