It Will Pass

October 29, 2015

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  Hello Dj Chloe,

  I’m an OFW, married with 2 kids. My husband admitted last year that he has a new girl.

  Last January 2014 I left for work. But starting April 2014 he has changed. So I asked him. Wala lang daw, pagod lang siya sa work. So I settled with that but one thing triggered me. He seldom see our kids at my mom’s house because he’s busy. Finally, September 2014, he admitted and telling me na aayusin na daw niya. Nanahimik lng ako. Nakinig ako. But it seems na walang nagbago. In the end, sinabi niya wala na siya aayusin pa. Mag kanya-kanya na kami. Umuwi ako ng May 2015 for vacation. Hindi siya nagpakita samin ng mga bata. Sa house ng mommy ko kami nakatira ng kids ko. Hanggang nakaalis ako ‘di siya nagpakita. Our kids do not know our situation yet. My eldest is 11,  my youngest is 6.

  Mayaman ‘yung girl ng hubby ko binigyan siya ng kotse, motor, mamahaling shoes at marami pa. Sabi nu’ng hubby ko nu’n nasilaw daw siya sa pera. Sa madaling salita pinagpalit niya kami sa pera. Ngayon, binibigyan niya ng mga mamahaling gamit din ang mga anak namin. Nagstart ulit siya magpakita this September 2015. Nagbibigay ng 1k, minsan 2k para sa mga bata. Dj Chloe, pa’no ko po kaya sasabihin sa mga anak ko sitwasyon namin? Closure na po ba ‘yun samin talaga? Kasi ayaw na niya makipag kita sakin o makausap. Hindi nakikialam ang family namin. Nahihirapan din ako dito. Nasa malayo ako, mag-isa kong gumagamot sa sakit ng nangyari samin ng pamilya ko na ‘di ko inasahan mangyayari. Thank you, DJ Chloe sa time for reading.

  Clarisse

  Hi Clarisse,

  If I were in your shoes I would never ever go after my husband anymore. Mukha siyang pera at pinagpalit niya kayo sa pera, which only means and proves that he is such a lazy ass! Gusto niya ng short cut sa buhay. Hayaan mo siya. In the first place, it should be men who should be providing us women what we need. Dapat siya ang nasa abroad at hindi ikaw. You don’t need closure from him. You give yourself the closure you need. Isn’t it enough that you have learned he is already with someone else who’s giving him what he needs so he would look like TAO naman? Don’t worry, eventually that other woman will also realize that he is just after the money. And I personally believe na kapag may nasasagasaan kang ibang tao hindi ka talaga magiging masaya. Just focus on your work give it your best and mag-ipon ka for your kids. Baka pag yumaman ka nga lang balikan ka ng asawa mo, ‘wag mo ng balikan please. He left you all once, he will leave you all again. The hurt and the pain will all pass. One day you’ll awake and you’ll find renewed strength and hope. Just anchor yourself on God. Lilipas din ang lahat. So for now, accept what happened and move on. Buhos mo lahat sa trabaho and for sure may mapapala ka kesa sa asawa mong mukhang pera.

  Sincerely,

  Chloe

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