It’s okay to think of yourself

September 16, 2015

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  Dear DJ Chloe,

  This is not the first time I seek an advice from you. And to be honest, this one is driving me nuts! It’s so funny. My soon-to-be husband has an ex-girlfriend. Honestly, he didn’t know that they are second degree cousins. They never knew each other even in photos or thru stories. Two weeks after they got together, when he got up from bed, he was surprised to see her in their living room talking to her mom. He didn’t know that she is his mom’s niece and they are cousins. That very moment he broke up with her but the girl keeps on visiting them.

  Time went by and the story was already normal to me, until last week! My soon-to-be mother-in-law invited his cousin to our wedding. This is so crazy and my fiancé can’t react because his mom will know what happened between them.

  Believe me, that time my blood went to my head and I want to turn my beast mode on and be like Incredible Hulk. Seriously, for me, if the girl’s decent enough she won’t show up much before our wedding. I can never blame his mom for inviting the girl because she has no idea. I am so annoyed with the girl because it seems that she’s intentionally doing it. As what I’ve said, no matter how perfect our wedding is, as long as the ex-girlfriend is there, whom my husband kissed and caressed, I won’t be comfortable that day. Please give me an advise. I know that this is natural because I’m a girl and it’s normal for girls to have insecurities. She’s another burden to me. This is so crazy but I’m serious. Thanks, DJ Chloe!

  Soon-to-be-Bride

  Dear Ms. Soon-to-be Bride,
  Second cousins ha? Medyo malapit pa ‘yan. Anyways, I think it’s your husband’s call on what to do. Because if you will go out of your way to tell your mother-in-law, it’s awkward. Tell your husband-to-be na mag damage control nito. And if he can’t then both of you should talk to your mother-in-law. If you don’t really want to see her attending your wedding. Kaya napaka importante ng mga reunions eh!

  It’s your wedding, it’s your call kung sino ang nasa final list ng invited and clearly it should be made known to the girl that she is not welcome there. Otherwise magpipilit ‘yan pumunta dahil ang reason niya “PINSAN AKO EH”. This is why there are coordinators and there are receiving staff at the entrance. I have seen gate crashers in weddings walking away fuming mad simply because their names are not on the list. Make sure her name does not appear on the list. I hope you have a good wedding coordinator and has a good team. Good luck and best wishes.

  -Chloe

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