Let Go of the Wrong One

November 30, 2015

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  Hi Dj Chloe,

  I decided not to comment in the comment box para na rin sa privacy. Hehe. ‘Yung story ni Marianne, same as mine, well, sort of. Magkaiba ng konti. I’m 20 years old and the guy I’m dating is 43 years old.

  More than two years na kaming ganun. And yes, physical attraction lang ‘yun, sa kanya. Pero sa’kin po kasi hindi eh. May pamilya na siya. This February ko lang nalaman and I always try na bumitaw sa kung anong meron kami pero hindi ganun kadali. Ilang beses na ‘kong nag-attempt pero hindi ko pa rin kinakaya. I focused on my studies and sa negosyo ng pamilya pero napakahina ko parin pagdating sa kaniya.

  We are very compatible with each other. Kaso pag naiisip ko naman na walang patutunguhan lahat ng ‘to, kahit sobrang saya naming magkasama, biglang bibigat ‘yung nararamdaman ko. Gusto kong maging martir at magstay sa kaniya kahit alam kong sa huli, ako rin talaga ang mas masasaktan. Mahal ko sya, Dj Chloe. Pero siya, nararamdaman ko, oo. Pero may pagkakataon din na mas matimbang ‘yung kailangan niya lang ako kaysa mahal niya ‘ko. Ni hindi niya nga masabing mahal niya ko. I know naman kasi na hindi naman talaga. May pamilya siya! Hindi ko din alam panong gagawin ko. Basta alam ko masaya ako pag magkasama kami kahit konting oras lang lagi ang meron kami.

  Ms. Genesis

  Dear Ms. Genesis,

  You are too young to be a mistress. I feel sad that you are wasting your youth on someone who is clearly just taking advantage of you. He doesn’t need to exert much effort for you. All he needs is to probably tell you he loves you. Pakiligin ka ng konti, bolahin na mas maganda ka, mas bata, mas mahal ka niya, mas nakakusap ka niya kesa sa asawa niya. Mas magaling ka, mas sariwa ka, at kung ano-ano pa. But at the end of the day, do you know what you are doing?

  You are making him a very lucky guy by letting him enjoy the best of both worlds. He has a wife to serve him at home and to sleep with when you’re not there. And you to sleep with when the wife isn’t available (may monthly period).

  You’re only 20, do you know how nice it is to date a guy your age or maybe a bit older than you? You know, get to know each other, talk about things you both can discuss kasi ka-frequency mo siya. Travel together, have night outs with friends. Ms. Genesis, your standard will change when you’re 30 and 40 ‘wag mong paabuso sa isang may asawa lang ang kabataan mo. 43? Old enough to be your father! Kung mahal ka niyan bibitawan niyan asawa niya para sa’yo.

  Hija, ang mga lalaki, 99%, ihain mo sarili mo kahit may asawa hindi ka tatanggihan. Lalaki ‘yan, walang mawawala diyan. Mabuking man ‘yan, ikaw pa rin lalabas na masama. Alam mong may asawa pinatulan mo. Worst, sasabihin, you lured him to making patol sa’yo.

  I asked you if you’re happy being in this situation, you answered yes…

  THEN THERE SHOULD BE NO COMPLAINING ABOUT ANYTHING. IF YOU’RE REALLY HAPPY…

  Happy, really? Are you telling me or are you convincing yourself?

   

  Sincerely,

  Chloe

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