Make it right!

September 16, 2015

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  Hello Dj Chloe,

  I wrote to you 3 months ago. If you remember, I was the married woman with a child and was left by my husband for another woman. After few years my husband went back and promised to be a good man. But when he left for work my ex-boyfriend got me pregnant. When I wrote to you I was four months pregnant then. Until now, to my husband’s knowledge, the child that I am bearing is his because we made love before he left on December 2014. The truth is I am already 7 and 1/2 months pregnant now. And for 7 months, nervousness never left my heart because I know that the truth will eventually come out especially when the child is born.

  For now, I am trying to keep calm and thinking of just accepting whatever happens because I really have no choice but to embrace the consequence that is set before me. I don’t have any plans of fooling my husband, I just do not have the guts to tell him the whole truth.

  Regarding my ex-boyfriend who got me pregnant, I talked to him 3 months ago and told him about our child. I thought that he’ll deny my child or get away from us but he didn’t. I am trying to stay away from him but there are times that he’s checking on me and my condition. Actually, he wants to see me every now and then. I’m just telling him not to because I don’t want anyone to know. I also thought that things will be more complicated especially now that my eldest child is a grown up and can understand situations already. My ex-boyfriend unselfishly understood that for my first born whom he treated like his own when my husband left me. We even fought over my decision of being discreet. As of now, he is letting me with my decision to be away from him. But he left me a word that whatever happens he’s just there. And his one last request is to let our child use his surname. Is that possible even if I am married? I am not answering him even if he brought that up many times. I am still thinking of my husband. Hope you can help me.

  Mrs. Confused

  Hello, Mrs. Confused!

  Yes, of course, I remember you. And I told you that the truth will set you free, right? I do not really know why you keep complicating your life. You had an affair, got pregnant and you didn’t have the courage to leave your husband and be with this ex boyfriend who got you pregnant. This! Makes me sick! If you will put dirt on someone’s head, at least, have the dignity to leave them! But you did not, you stayed, because you’re too afraid of the consequences of what you did. Now you’re pregnant. But you just can’t seem to keep yourself from being in touch with the ex-boyfriend? You do not need his opinion, you do not need him, if you chose to stay with your husband and make him think ’til death that he is the father of your child. Please, LET GO OF THE OTHER MAN. The more you keep him in the loop, the more he will think he has a hand on you. You get me? The more na nakikipag-usap ka at tinatanong anong opinion niya, the more na iisipin niya to get involved with you. There is nothing you can do because if there’s something he can do, he could have packed his bags and took you with him. Well, at least, he has “moral support” by telling you that he is just there for you. Let the child use his family name? Are you nuts? YES, TRY IT. THAT’S THE BEST WAY TO REVEAL TO YOUR HUSBAND THAT HE IS NOT THE FATHER. Once and for all, decide to make things right. It’s either you tell your husband that you cheated on him or you keep silent and get the other man out of your life and get on with your life with your husband and your own family. Good luck.

  -Chloe

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