The Marriage Requirement

September 30, 2015

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  Dear DJ Chloe,

  I’m a father of 2 kids. I need your advice. Should I break up from my almost 8-year marriage? I’m already bored and unhappy with my wife. It started when we argue over small things and she called me “tanga” (stupid), “lazy” and when she said she’s tired of us. She complains and start arguments even without thinking about it. We’re just in a cycle.

  I respect her and tries my best not to hurt her. But since our petty fights started, I’ve lost my respect for her and started to feel bored. I just keep things to myself, it’s not pride, I am just respecting myself. I’m losing my patience. I’ve sacrificed a lot for her and for our kids–my career, skills, and even my future job. She doesn’t respect me anymore as a father to our kids and as her husband.

  At the back of my head, maybe, she already have someone else. She’s always hiding her phone, even deleted my name on her contact list, whispers on a phone call, wears sexy dresses and make up, and even goes out alone. She keeps on telling me that she’ll go on a shopping. I can’t figure it out. We don’t even make love anymore. She keeps on giving excuses. Yet I respect here and do not force her. Yes, I know I’m not the typical guy he wants.

  It’s her birthday today and I didn’t greet her. And when we argued before our 8th anniversary, I didn’t greet her too. I’m thinking of flirting thru online dating, but I can’t do it. I don’t want to cheat. I just wanted to be happy again. I’m hurt, bored, and unhappy. I’m just staying form y two sons.

  Mr. Taurus

   

  Hi Mr. Taurus,

  You’re thinking of flirting and finding someone to talk to thru online dating?
  Why not do it with your wife? She is your wife. You should probably try to remember how you once passionately made love with her. You see, in marriage it is both your obligation to keep the fire burning. I wonder what is her basis in calling you lazy, stupid–tanga? Dapat una pa lang you didn’t allow it anymore. You should have told her that it’s not acceptable that she belittles you and makes you feel less of a man.

  Your assumptions of her having an affair are just assumptions. Why not ask her about it or simply try to find out is she really is into an affair.

  The way I see it you love her that much pa rin because you are seeking an advice from me. Don’t expect change should come from her if you love her and you want to save your marriage mauna ka ng magbago. Shower her with time, send the kids to your in-laws and spend the whole week with each other. Lock yourselves in your room. Order food delivery or better yet kidnap her and take her somewhere far and blow her mind away with all the romantic ideas you can do. Minsan kailangan mong balikan pano mo ba siya nakuhang “paibigin” sa’yo and do it all over again. You know what your wedding ring stands for? No beginning and no end, thats how your love should be. Be creative, be funny, be kinky. It’s marriage were talking about here. Good luck sir and have fun.

  -Chloe

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