Too Much

October 26, 2015

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  Hi, DJ Chloe! Fan niyo po ako since college hanggang ngayon na may dalawang anak na kami ng asawa ko. I just want to ask for an advice about my current situation with my husband. He’s a ‘pathological’ liar po kasi and a drug user. Because of his addiction, palagi sya nangungutang kung kani- kanino at nangungupit na din sa akin. Ayaw niya ng nakocontrol buhay niya at gusto niya palagi magbuhay binata. Ngayon nga po ‘di ko na siya pinapapasok sa bahay since akin naman itong house pero okay lang naman na makita niya ang mga anak niya. Kapag magkasama kami, muntik na kami palaging magpatayan. Pero ngayon nga naiiyak ako sa situation namin dahil naaawa ako sa mga bata dahil sa mga pinaggagawa nya. Ang pangit na ng set up ng relationship namin samantalang okay naman kami dati. Four days na rin siyang hindi umuuwi at takot akong malaman kung may inuuuwian na siyang iba kasi hindi ko talaga kakayanin at nakakainsulto rin especially because ginawa ko lahat ng pagsisilbi sa kanila ng mga anak ko. Is it time for me to just let him go and give him the freedom he wants? Or magpakumbaba and accept him again for the sake of our children. Thank you po sa advice DJ Chloe.

  Miss Carla

  Hi Carla,

  You need to talk to him and ask for the help of both of your parents to help you bring him into rehab. That is if you can afford it. You want my honest opinion? LEAVE. I am a very radical person and I really hate it when I get to see women putting up with men such as your husband. My God! Men who don’t have any dispositions in life should be left on their own. He wants to live like he is single? Let him. May pamilya ka na hindi ka pa mag isip at gumawa ng ika-aayos ng buhay ng mga anak mo? Unless your husband decides to change for the sake of your children, then your home will be hell. Your children will always see both of you trying to kill each other fighting over the same reasons and that will be traumatic to them. You also have a problem, you are too emotionally dependent on him that you can’t take it if you will know that “he might be going home to someone else already?” So? You’d rather take his drug addiction and endure basta wag lang me uwiang iba? Haaaay…. TOO MUCH LOVE WILL KILL YOU MY DEAR…..

  Sincerely,

  Chloe

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